Hey Mini,
First I want to say welcome to the Support Wall, I’m so glad that you came here and reached out! We are here for you, we love you, and we want to walk alongside you in life. You are brave and courageous for reaching out, and for that I am proud of you, and I hope that you will continue to reach out because my friend you are not alone, and we want to walk along side you through this struggle called life. We love you, hold fast friend.
I’ve been sitting here for quite some time trying to find the words to say to make you feel better, to make you realize that you’re not alone, but honestly I felt myself inside this post and it broke me friend, because it’s so freaking tough, and I want you to know that you are not alone. I am here for you, I see you, I get it friend, but hey don’t give up because you are loved, you are wanted, you are important.
It’s hard finally hitting adulthood, and I’m feeling that way at 21. I’m working full time and going to college, and I ask myself constantly what the hell am I doing with my life, I don’t want to adult, I can’t adult, I get overwhelmed too. And I agree not being treated as an adult (especially by parents is tough) because in their eyes we will always be their kid/ their baby. But it’s like jeez y’all want me to grow up, to be responsible, and not immature but you treat me like a kid, how does that work?? I get it friend, I do and just know you’re not alone. Unfortunately I don’t have the best advice on this one because I’m literally living it, but the best I can tell you friend is just sit down and talk to them and be like hey, this isn’t right, and hope they take it well and you guys can work through it and make a healthy compromise.
Dude, trusting people is freaking hard, to someone who has had their trust broke a million times I get it friend, and believe me it takes freaking time. And that’s okay. For the longest time I felt dumb for not trusting people as quick as others. My support group I have now it took me eight months of being a part of this community before I truly began to open up and be honest about where I was at, so my friend you reaching out and trusting me, and trusting this community is such a huge freaking accomplishment and I’m proud of you.
Now also know, when I’m proud of you, and when I say those words I mean it dude. I don’t know if you’ve read any of my post on the support wall, but that’s something I’ve struggled with for a really long time. The desire to hear someone say I’m proud of you and actually mean it. It’s so freaking important to hear and I want you to know I mean those words. I’m proud of you for reaching out, I’m proud that you are here, I’m glad that you are here, and I really hope my friend that you continue to reach out! Whether it be here on the support wall, or if you’re not in the discord I encourage you to join that: https://www.discord.gg/heartsupport and that’s another amazing place that you can go and reach out! Because you are not alone, and I/we want to be here to walk along side you in life, and be there to support you along the way.
The lie you are believing: I am not good enough
The truth: You are good enough
The lie you are believing: I am not good enough
The truth: You are good enough
The lie you are believing: I am not good enough
The truth: You are good enough
The lie you are believing: I am not good enough
The truth: You are good enough
I could spam that a million times, because my friend I haven’t walked in your shoes, but this is something I struggle with daily. The feeling of always falling short and never being good enough usually starts at a young age, for me it was with my parents. I encourage you to identify when you first started having this feeling, or the root of the issue, and start seeking healing in that. It’s something that I want to work on into the new year and I talk about often with my support group because it’s something him and I both struggle with, so friend remember at the end of the day you aren’t alone.
Now there’s one more thing in your post that I think is important to address and it’s the way you view yourself. My friend, I don’t know if you believe in God, but dude you are made in God’s image and you are perfect just the way you are, and don’t let anyone tell you differently. And dude I know it’s tough, you’re talking to someone who’s struggled with self image her entire life, it’s not easy. But also the way you look, or the way you talk, or how book smart you are, etc. those things don’t define who you are as a person. And despite all that guess what: you are still LOVED, still IMPORTANT, still AMAZING, still WORTH LOVE, and still GOOD ENOUGH.
I was going to try to do like a to long didn’t read thing at the end, but I really hope that you read this. Man I poured my heart out to you in this post, cause dude I see you. I messaged a couple of people as I was responding to this post as it took me about an hour and a half to get all of this out, cause I see you dude, I see your heart, and don’t ever feel alone. We love you, we want to be here for you, to walk along side you. I’ll even go as far as to say I love you dude, and I would love to walk along side you, feel free to message me here, or when you join the discord shoot me a message there (daclassifiedninja). You are an encouragement to me, and you making this post has encouraged me to start working through some of these things in my life as well! Love you
Hold Fast, You’re Worth It,
Monkey