Severe content warnings for self-harm and suicidal ideation. All of them. I know it’s not required to put content warnings on posts. In my opinion, this whole forum IS a giant content warning. I just… idk I’m just a conscientious lady and I don’t want someone who doesn’t want to deal with this to accidentally read something they’re not prepared for.
Today at 10:43 PM
“I know I don’t rlly matter but I’m gonna try to bleed out n hopefully I won’t be here tomorrow ily all hope you feel better”
She’s fine now, so she says. 23 minutes after posting that suicide note to the #vent-and-support channel on this trans lady Discord I’m on, she’s out of immediate danger. She talked back and forth with the other ladies on the channel, and after going AFK for a bit and really giving us a scare she reassured us with: “i’m not dead rn I’m going to sleep. I hope I don’t wake up. I probably will. I appreciate what u said.”
I guess… i want to know how to listen to people who are actively suicidal. I don’t have any trainingfor how to help people who are in crisis. All I knew how to do was copy and paste the suicide hotline numbers into chat, reassure her that she wasn’t an “attention whore” or a “manipulative piece of shit.”
There were so many things I failed to do out of ignorance. I didn’t think to ask her where she was located, so I could call the local authorities and have them check up on her. I certainly didn’t find that from searching her past posts on the server. I didn’t ask her if she had a plan all figured out for how she was going to “bleed out.” I don’t even know if you’re even SUPPOSED to ask that of someone who’s actively suicidal, that’s just something that I heard about and I don’t know if it’s even true!
And I guess I also want to know what to do for myself. I never acknowledged my own wants or needs because I didn’t think I was worth it. Took me until I was 19 to even BEGIN to consider taking care of myself. I really want some advice to make sure that I’m not overlooking some really obvious things.
- One thing I’m doing is explaining my situation here where people can read and give advice.
- I have a therapy appointment later this week.
*I don’t know how to meditate but I will do some deep breathing after this to slow my heart down to normal. - I really want a drink, but something tells me that’s not going to be helpful. I’d still totally do it if I actually had any alcohol left.
- I want to go play video games for a few hours to escape into another world to leave this one alone for a bit, but that’s what I usually do and I don’t think that’s a good idea either.
- I feel like I need sleep. I think i’ll do that after the breathing thing.
Thanks for reading. I really needed to let this out and people were having an intimate conversation about self-worth on the Heartsupport #real-talk Discord and I didn’t want to interrupt it with “HAI GUISE THIS PERSON IS COMMITTING SUICIDE WAT DO”