I’m writing this post from a very broken, angry, confused, and depressive place. I have so many questions left unanswered… and so much blame that I carry. Tonight I got news that my childhood friend took his own life this afternoon. Upon receiving the news I look back at our most recent messages, and the last thing I told him was this, “If I could take away all your pain and put it on myself I would.” Well I guess I didn’t realize just how much pain he was in (this was two days before).
Some may say that it’s selfish to be angry, but I’m not sure if the anger is towards him or myself or slightly both. He was such a good kid, he was on a full ride scholarship, and was on his way to graduating with a 3.8 GPA (on a 4.0) scale in December. I’m angry at myself because I should’ve known, there’s got to be something more that I could’ve done, or something I could have said to stop it.
Secondly I’m confused, I’m confused on why he didn’t tell me. We had the relationship where we didn’t talk all the time, but if something went wrong we both knew that each other was there. I just wish he would have told me, or showed something that would’ve made me know or think that this was coming.
Lastly, I’m so upset! He was a childhood friend of mine, I’ve known him for almost ten years now, and he pretty well became like a brother to me! He was someone I looked up to, I went to his sports games etc. I’m just at a lost for words and I don’t know what to say. I feel like I"m too blame. I’m afraid to even go to his services, because I feel as though there’s something that I could have done to prevent what happened.
I don’t know what I’m feeling or what I’m thinking right now, all I know is that I’m an emotional wreck, and honestly I hate myself and I feel that I’m too blame. I read the blog about a similar situation to this that Ben wrote (https://blog.heartsupport.com/when-suicide-prevention-doesnt-work-f6c7973096eb?source=linkShare-29d2dcb8cb7e-1533017464) and oh it just hits my heart, because I feel like I’m in a similar spot… Like there’s something more I could’ve said or done.
I’m sorry for how jumbled this post is, as it’s 1:45 am, and it’s been a long night after getting the news. I’m at a lost for words, and I feel like I"m missing a piece of me. Please keep him and his family and friends in your thoughts an prayers!
FLY HIGH BROTHER </3