Maybe one day, but not this one

hello guys.

I’m so sorry if nobody understands what i wrote because I’m not even from USA, Canada, or other English-native-speaking countries…

I’m a Russian 14 years old kid, and I feel awkward and not good sometimes.

I’m fat, lazy, always getting myself into troubles.
And the fact that I’m REALLY smart, but lazy as hell doubles my own hate to myself.

I don’t have many friends because im not very confident…

I can’t get better at school…

My classmates making laugh out of me.

Some teachers hate me…

And the worse thing is that is all my own fault, but the worst one is that I can change everything but I don’t want to start…

I asked my mom for help, she said what to do, but I haven’t done all she said me

What should I do to help myself if I’m such lazy person

It’s alright to be lazy and unmotivated, I am the same way when my depression gets bad. Sometimes the reason why things are so difficult to change is because our brains are wired differently or they are not working the way they are supposed to. Everyone deals with feeling lethargic at times but it’s important to learn how to pick yourself up and motivate yourself. If need be, talk to a therapist or a doctor about what you are dealing with

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nekofox,

Your english is great! I understand all of this.

And honestly, I relate to all of this too…I’ve been in all the same mess…classmates and teachers rejecting me and making fun of me…feeling smart but like I’m wasting my abilities/skills/potential because I can’t find the will to make a move, to change, to do something, so I just feel lazy and like all I do all day is hide from the pain that’s all around me and play video games. That was my whole life in high school…

You’re not alone, man. You’re definitely not alone.

One of the things that I’ve come to believe is that laziness is logical…meaning, YOU aren’t lazy, but your situation, your past, the things you’re trying to avoid…all that kind of stuff, it all builds up and makes sense as to why you aren’t motivated.

For instance, in my life, I wasn’t motivated because I felt like no matter what I did I was going to prove myself to be a failure anyways, and “trying” meant I was certainly going to get criticized and judged and hurt by the people I loved most and desperately wanted approval from…so instead of getting cut down every time I tried, I played video games and looked at porn to shut the world out…to escape from this reality that I felt inadequate in.

When I found something that I loved – HeartSupport – I actually became super motivated…I was willing to face a lot of fear and push through a lot of stuff to make things happen…I also did the same thing when I was in a band…I also did the same thing when I got into a relationship with my girlfriend…I learned that I could be motivated in circumstances that I loved and tended to be unmotivated when I was actually just afraid and avoiding making some kind of pain.

So instead of thinking that your lazy – what is it you’re afraid of? What are you afraid will happen if you “try”? What kind of pain have you faced in your past that helped create that kind of fear?