So I made a post a while back stating hey I figured out my sexuality- but now I don’t think I’m right again.
My sexuality is something that I’ve struggled with for a very long time. I have thought I had it figured out very many times but now I am going on 5 years of struggling with this.
I thought I was demi- bisexual because I don’t feel romantic attraction towards people until I get close to them, and I like guys and girls- at least I thought.
I started using a dating app and now I am just confused. I don’t even know if I want to be in a relay but it’s like it’s something I yearn for; it’s like one day my heart will feel all fluttery with this guy I’m talking to but then the next hour I will not want him to be in my life at all- not because he is a bad guy, just because it’s different I guess and it feels weird.
I wouldn’t say my parents shunned dating my whole life but I guess it was always just a weird topic to bring up- my sister has dated a lot and I guess I just don’t want my parents to talk about me like they have talked about her.
I know I am going to be told to be careful and I have my whole life; I am very careful and honestly too careful. I don’t really like to reach out to people or get close to people because it’s just too much; there was a guy that I was open to and he kind of just let me suffer alone and he deserted me for a long time.
… then I found him on this dating app and started talking to him again. I feel really stupid for reaching out to him again.
I feel like there’s something wrong with me. I thought I liked guys and girls and then I thought I was just asexual. I think a part of me just wants to be asexual because then I don’t have to worry about a relationship or getting too close to someone just to have them abandon me again.
I’ve never dated, never went on a date, and I guess I just don’t know what to do- how to approach it. Do I even want to embark on this yet? Do I even want this in my life?
I’m just really frustrated with myself and my body for not understanding who I like and don’t like; I know I don’t have to label myself but it’s just nice to have a label I guess. Just to know so I’m not sitting there wondering why I don’t like this person or gender or something.
I don’t ever talk about dating or liking people so this is a first. I feel like I want to abandon this person I met, and this girl I met, and this person I let come back into my life.
I feel so weird and disgusting. I don’t know what to do.