This is probably not normal but

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Lately in my life, I’ve been realizing a few characteristics about myself and it all depends on my situation or relationships with people in my life. I’m a sophomore in college. This month was the first time I was in a relationship with a male. I was open to the experience and everything. However, today was the day I decided to end things. He was so serious about me, but I wasn’t so sure if I wanted to be serious with him. I ended up hurting his feelings and mind you he liked me for about 3 years now. Now here is the part where it might not be normal. I didn’t care if I hurt his feelings. I had no remorse after hurting him. I was so happy when it was over and literally I felt free. But after this experience it made me realize what if I’m incapable of loving someone romantically? This thought is starting to scare me, but I don’t know what to do. What I do know is that I love my friends and family. The way I reacted to the end of a relationship idk if that’s normal. Feeling overly happy and having no remorse. If this relationship continued, he would’ve been emotionally manipulated and every time he would open up to me, I wouldn’t know how to respond because I would not care. I don’t know if this ever happened to someone else.

Btw this is my first time using this site and honestly I hope it helps my mental health because just by writing this honestly felt good.

~Sailor

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Hi there.
Lemme just start off by saying just because you weren’t totally sad, doesn’t mean you are incapable of loving someone. Loving someone is more just a romantic feeling, loving someone means putting them before yourself sometimes (as Olaf once said.) If you weren’t ready to do that, then the relationship wouldn’t have been good for the both of you. I think it’s a good thing you took into consideration the future if this relationship would have continued and acted upon that.

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Hi friend,
The way you felt is actually quite normal, without realising you were tied down in a relationship that wasn’t right for you, so the feeling of relief is just a sign that, that person was not the one for you.

I am not a mental health specialist but to be someone who is “incapable of love” you have to not have love for anyone else, so you wouldn’t love your family or your friends but you do.

I personally feel you do the right thing for both of you, it wouldn’t be fair on either of you if you had continued unhappily in that relationship.

Hold fast friend,
Luna :heart:️