Hey guys,
First off just want to say Happy Thanksgiving to all my US friends, I hope you all have a safe and lovely holiday, and remember to always count your blessings. You are loved, valued, and important. Hold fast, and never give up.
To get into the topic of the post now… The title says it all, I’m too good at goodbyes, a lot of goodbyes that I didn’t want to have to say, and a lot of goodbyes that I quickly regretted soon after. But specifically the goodbyes to ex boyfriends. For those of you who don’t really know my story the TLDR; most of my past relationships have been abusive both physically as well as mentally. But eventually whether their choice or mine the relationships came to an end, and I just didn’t know what to do, and I couldn’t let them go.
So as I’m sitting home alone on Thanksgiving my mind wonders back to them, my mind wonders how are they doing, are they okay. Maybe I should text them and tell them Happy Thanksgiving, maybe they want to hear from me… or maybe they don’t. I’m one who wants to seek answers to everything, and unfortunately in those relationships there’s a lot of questions that are left unanswered, and may forever be left that way.
I want to know, why did you abuse me… why did you hit me… why did you break my jaw… why was the love only conditional… what the hell is true love and actual love supposed to be… Why didn’t my parents love me, why am I a disappointment to my parents and everyone around me… All the things that are left unanswered and leave me feeling worthless… But yet people tell me I’m not ready for the answers… I’m not in the place to receive the answers… but really is there ever a good time to get the answers? Will it only hurt me so much more?
So here I am wondering why I’m still here, and why I’m still fighting. I don’t have much strength in me, and I find myself pulling away from the people who love me the most, support me the most, and just want to see the best for me (aka the people in this community). But it’s scary. My logic has always been that it’s better to leave yourself, then to have someone leave you because it hurts less. But they promise me daily that they aren’t going anywhere, and that I’m safe here… but I’ve heard that a million times, and I trust them. But every time I love, and every time I trust, it only leads to me being hurt.
I guess what I’m trying to say is that I love you guys, and I love this community. I love how supportive this community is, but I just don’t know what to do. I don’t want to run, but I’m so scared to stay. Sorry for the ranting post, that makes no sense, and probably sounds stupid. Just know I love you guys!
Hold Fast, You’re Worth It,
Monkey