partner of nearly 7 years might be moving out. It’s not even like a big messy thing, she’s just been going to therapy for a while now, and on this big mission of self improvement and being a fully actualized person,and she is realizing she has never gotten the chance to be a fully independent adult, so she is seriously considering saving up to get an apartment and live on her own. Maybe for a while, maybe forever.
I obviously don’t want her to go, but I’m also so proud of all the progress she has made. She’s gone from this awful background that would have destroyed anyone else, and she’s losing weight and less depressed than she has ever been, looking for a job again, and she’s just blooming in independence. I’m so proud of her… but of course I don’t want her to leave. It’s a struggle. Living together is so much cheaper, and we are still best friends. She was such a dependent person for so long, and I just wish we could be independent together. We have a big house and a 3 cat family, and she could finally afford the nice things she wants and deserves, if she would stay. It’s so tough to respect her decisions and be so proud of her, but disagree so strongly. Life is difficult.
All these little issues have now come out, and we have been in a rut for a little while. She’s agreed to stay, work on things, and save up money before trying anything. We have both been at our lowest together, and got each other through it. We are best friends, but I recognize her need for independence and personal growth, and I’m encouraging everything I can to facilitate that.
No matter what she chooses, she has my support and my home is always open.