Welcome everyone, this might be long, and might be full of bad phrases, because I self-learned english a long time ago, and haven’t really used it recently.
Today, as I write this, I watched Kitboga’s stream for 2-3 hours on Twitch, then he hosted HeartSupport with DanMakesHisMark, I lurked for a few hours, with a chill drawing stream, then I started to pay attention for the chat, a lot of people, with lot of sad stories, so I though I should share mine as well, but not on the stream, after he mentioned this anon forum to share our stories.
So here I am, 0:24 am, when I start to type this story.
Lets start 2 years back from now, summer of 2018:
Always been an introverted kid, never had a lot of friends, maximum 2-3 but mostly in online conversations.
I’ve been dating with a girl for a few months, everything is going the right way, we totally understand each other, so we decieded to move together for the next semester, both learning engeneering at uni, everything is fine, every day is my best day of my life.
10th of October is her birthday, so I organized a trip with my family as well, my parents threated her like a family member. The trip was awesome, we spent a long weekend together, even stronger relationship if possible at this point, thoughts about marriage.
So happy and wholesome story so far, isn’t it? now the plot twist.
As we drove home, I was driving, had my licence for like 4-5 years, never had an accident before, not even a speeding ticket or any violation. We had to travel 440 kms (273 miles) to our home, and we left the hotel afternoon. After a while it starts to get dark and after eventful weekend everyone is fell asleep in the car, except me of course, driving in the middle lane about 110 km/h (~70m/h) on a motorway (It’s pretty safe, you are allowed to go 130km/h (~80m/h) in my country) when I start to pass a truck it’s suddenly hit our car from the right, and we are stuck under the trailer, and the truck keeps moving into the fast lane (the innermost), and grinding our car between the trailer and the ribbon railing. I couldn’t do anything, I remember pushing the breaks as hard as I could, the car was stuck. The next thing I remember, is I’m in hospital, looking for my family, my girlfriend, but I cannot see anyone. I look around, checked my arms and legs, everyhing was fine, didn’t even hurt… few scratches on my face as the windshield broke. Fast foward 10 minutes, after I looked someone to tell me what happend. Found a nurse, who told me my parents, and my girlfriend died in that accident, also the truck driver, who probably had a stroke, that’s why he pulled the truck on our car.
on 14th of October, 2018, I lost everything.
Fast foward to this day, about my mental health, I couldn’t stop blaming myself for it. I cannot talk about this situation in person, because I burst out in tears every time I try to talk about. I can’t do anything productive, I had to stop uni for the past 2 years, because I cannot think about anything else. It’s always haunt me, all of my sober day time, all of my dreams turn into a nightmare, experience this situation over and over again, every night. I think I’m going insane, but not sure how to get help. I never was a suicidal kid, or teenager, but now I see suicide as the only option out of this suffering.
Now I’m 25, never been at any psychologist or anyone i could talk about this. I held it in myself deep down, without anyone knowing anything about my past. I’ve tried to open up to people, to make friends, but I felt it won’t work, I’m not intrested in anyone’s sorry, to tell them what happend, and they never see the sadness on me, I’m the funny guy if I feel confortable besides you.
Also tired to date with multiple girls, I have no feelings for anyone,and I don’t want to take advantage of anyone. I’m pretty sure I lost interest in everyhing in my life because every memory hurts. I lost interest in music, video games, traveling,cooking, studiing, and even comedy and tv shows because we used to do these things together.
I don’t know how to leave all these things behind, and I blame myself every day. The only way I can sleep is when I cry myself to sleep, but only few hours passes before I wake up to a nightmare.
I’m sorry to tell you all these things and I hope you never witness similar situation like this.
1:16 am, not sure why I typed all this, I’m not here for the “sorry” replies and pretty sure will kill myself anyway in a few days.
I don’t know what else to say I mean write,
I wish the best for everyone.