What bothers me a lot is that people assume all kinds of things about me that are simply not true and they just don’t understand it.
I don’t even say anymore that I am tired, because everyone just looks at me and says stuff like, „why are you tired? You do nothing all day!“ or „then just go to bed earlier“ or „you are just lazy“.
Everyone tells me that i am extremely lazy, just because I work only part time and because I do not do al lot of things outside my home.
They call me lazy because I am overweight and because I don’t work out everyday.
They say I don’t try enough and if I would just actually give it a shot, I would be happy. They say that I an easy life because I work for my dad and I can work form home whenever I want to, also because I still live with my parents.
They say that it is no wonder I feel bad, because I listen to „bad and angry music“, and some even say that the these metal bands are „having mental problems and glorify suicide“.
They tell me that I am a bad Christian because I don’t go to church every Sunday or read my bible all the time or don’t particularly like what is considered worship music. They say I am not a Christian because I am depressed and because I don’t have a „job“ at church.
And my favorite is, they say that I am not suicidal, I am just an adrenaline junkie who likes a near death experience (aka suicide attempt) and that I am a narcissist because I tell close friends that I am not okay when asked how I am doing.
However, the truth is, I am exhausted all the time because I cannot fall asleep at night because my brain just won’t shut off and my thoughts never stop. I am exhausted because being alive is all I can do right now, and I just don’t know what is wrong with my body (neither does my doctor by the way).
The truth is that I am not lazy, I have a hard time doing anything because this lovely thing called mental illness is constantly reminding me that I cannot do sometime or of the worst outcome possible. I am not lazy, I have a part time job because that is more than enough for me at the moment and I cannot do more than that with the capacity I have right now.
I try to lose weight and work out, but it is not that easy and that does not mean that I am lazy and don’t move. My life is not easy just because I have an easy job and don’t have to work all the time. Try living just one day in my head and you will see how difficult it is to live my life; depression and anxiety is no fun and certainly nothing easy, and I live at home with my parents because I know I cannot trust myself alone right now and that I would live a very unhealthy and even more unproductive life.
The truth is, I don’t always go to church because I just cant always make myself leave the house and being around people drains me a lot. I listen to music that I love, and it these assumptions about bands and people just make me sick.
I am certainly not what they say about me, but it hurts me a lot.
It is those nights where all these assumptions run through my head over and over and over again, that I believe that they will be better off without me. It is those nights when I want to prove them all wrong.
It is a night like that, that made me realize that I am insignificant in this world and that no matter what all these people say about me, I will never make a difference or be able to educated them.
And trust me, I am trying as hard as I can.