I am 25 and my biggest problem is that I am constantly comparing myself with people my age or younger and I see that almost everybody do bether than me in some aspects like work, studies, relationships and that makes me sad all the time because I know comparison brings nothing but negative feelings.
There are a lot of things I want to do but I keep telling to myself that my time has passed and I’m too old to have the dreams I have.
I want to finish college and get a nice job that allows me to start living the life I want but I’m also so afraid to face the world, I grew up so supported that now I realized it is the real problem not my anxiety or depression.
Any advice?
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You’re not old dear,not everyone who has the best grades end up well,you may feel they have the best relationship but you never can tell…you are not old,ur time is coming… just be patient 
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I am younger than you but we both have long life and jorneys so 25 is not old and my mom is 35 and people above our age and below are age still should be treated the same.
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you are not old. also if you think your old understand this, people shouldn’t be treated different than others… not even by age, or gender, or any reasons! nobody should treat themself different from others ether. not by age, not for any reason.
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friend
you are right, comparison doesnt help. however, i think following the path of what you LIKE to do is key to moving forward. having blinders on and just looking at what YOU want to do. taking steps to do that instead of looking at others.
i understand your feelings, believe me. but you gotta just look at you rn. no one else.
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It’s never too late for things especially when you’re in your 20’s
Everybody is different some people bloom earlier and some bloom later. And in reality it doesn’t make any difference to anyone else
I was 24 when I went back to college to start my software program again, I’m now you’re age and loving my progress I have so much motivation to find a job and everything
And I know that whatever I do I’ll make it work due to my effort
There’s lots of people like you my friend don’t think about it too much, but just be sure to concentrate now or you’ll be ruin your future
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You’re never too old to start or finish college. I myself didn’t graduate on time and had people in classes that were in their late twenties or early thirties because they either were veterans, had to start and stop for a variety reasons or it was their first time in college. Also you are never too old to try something or learn something new. For example, I skateboard I have been doing it since I was 13 but I noticed recently that people as old as their thirties and forties are just getting into it and are starting to learn. There is no real timeline of starting or stopping something it just starts and ends with you. If you want to try something go for it. Don’t let age deter you from something that could make you truly happy.
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The people who see who are “doing better than you” are putting their best faces forward online. They’re not airing the parts of their lives that aren’t so great. Equally important are the people who are like you and not posting about how glamorous their lives are or aren’t. There are plenty of people in the same boat as you, but they don’t have a bright sunny online presence.
I dropped out of school for the second time when I was 24. I figured my aspirations to be an engineer were over. My mom encouraged me to use my CAD skills to get an entry-level drafting job, and now years later I’m doing new product development. I never did get my degree. I went back to school for one semester when I was 29 because I wanted to advance my career. After that semester I got my current job, which is my dream role even if it’s not in my dream industry, so I put school on hold again. School will always be there, and your credits don’t expire.
I believe if you work hard and go for your goals you can achieve them, even if it takes a little longer. I also believe that you get to define success for yourself, and success isn’t always defined by a college degree, fancy title, or big paycheck. I have a friend who double majored in art history and archaeology, and she’s a museum educator. She doesn’t make much money, and she probably won’t be the CEO of anything, but she followed her dreams, and that’s success in its own right. I also know a guy who got his engineering degree, then couldn’t get an engineering job. So he started working at an oil refinery, and now several years later he’s a foreman, making a good living and on track to advance in management. It’s not the success he imagined, but it’s still success.
As for relationships, a lot of people these days are single well into their 30s. They are living their lives in a way that looks great on Facebook, and maybe they’re really happy, or maybe they really want to meet someone but haven’t yet. They’re the only ones who really know that. To meet the right person you only have to get lucky once. I met my wife when I was 28, after spending most of my 20s single, with plenty of bad dates and a sum-total of about a year of bad relationships in there. She and I would both tell you our first date wasn’t even that great, but once we got serious, it didn’t matter that I spent 5 years in and out of bad relationships, nor that she spent 5 years not dating at all. The alternative is settling for someone just for the sake of being married, and that’s soul-draining too. I’ve known plenty of people who have done that, and I bet you know some too. One of these days you’ll go on your last first date. You won’t know when, but it’ll happen, even if you only go on a couple dates a year.
We only see ourselves where we are. It doesn’t feel extra special, it just feels normal because it’s our life. There are people out there who see you as someone with a lot of potential and a lot going for you, but they don’t say so because they don’t want to call attention to the (also self-perceived) inadequacies they feel. You are where you are, and you can choose to stay there or move on. And if you decide to move on, you can choose your own path and define your own success 
hang in there!
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Awesome words man, you just changed my perspective
Thanks a lot, every word you typed means a lot to me
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