Hey everyone,
It has been a while since an incident I had with a really good friend of mine who has DID (dissociative identity disorder) or multiple personality disorder, in short(because I told the story before in a post called “something I wanted to write about”), what happened was that I met one of the personalities, the convo was interesting in the beginning. I suggested telling their healthcare professional. They said professionals are bad due to(in their eyes)doctors only seeing them as schizophrenics. Argument ensues. The personality in question says the conversation is over along with two paragraphs that essentially to sum it up mean that I’m trying to make the integration or healing process look simple(which I wasn’t trying to do), I offered an olive branch and tried to apologize, but to tell you the truth I don’t know if it was my fault or not, the personality I’ve known as my friend came back and said that we seemed that we argued, and I said sorry, and they said it was okay, but after that every time they would come back and ask normal questions like saying hi and what not, but the moment I would answer, they would disappear, then they come back, but wayy later. So that’s a rough summarization of the story. I tried forgetting about what happened, but it unfortunately just stayed in the back of my mind you know, and I tried computing solutions for this complex equation so to speak, but I really didn’t find a significant one you know, so it bothers me a bit, I wish I could get my friend back, and I’m afraid I might lose them, and I don’t know if it’s my fault you know. Their friendship really meant a lot to me, because I felt like I could be the real me, don’t get me wrong I am still real and authentic with ppl, but I feel they are like that friend that you talk to after work that isn’t in the same line of work as you so to speak, a person who brings the best and realism out of you as a person.any advice to win them back or be able to talk to them?is there any way I cannot support them too?and how do I cope with failure that I believe I can’t reverse?(just in case)