So i guess this is me being honest and open about my issues, normally im not so brutally honest but ive been inspired to do so in hopes that i can get advice or i don’t even know. I guess the first place to start is i guess i was always depressed because I used to get bullied when i was little even in middle school. They would bully me because of my weight and what i liked, and it just would never stop which just made me feel worse. I barely had any friends, and it just made me feel so alone. I hated it an it expanded into my teen years because i still barely had friends, and felt like i had no one to turn to about my issues. I also was depressed because my parents were fighting and ignoring their own children’s issues.
I also guess my anxiety started around my teen years as well, because i couldn’t control my parents fighting hell i couldn’t control anything except my self harm. Basically i started self harm because i couldn’t control anything, the only thing i could control was the pain i caused myself and it felt good at the time. Im a recovering self harmer and its still hard to not relapse because things seem to fall apart so much.
But those are things im pretty open and honest about along with my BPD, but i guess there are things i haven’t been honest about. Like my eating disorder? I don’t even know what to call it really i have always had a rough time with food when i was younger i used it as a coping tool because it made me feel better and didn’t not listen to me. Or made me feel ashamed for being upset , or call me cute for a fat girl like my own mother did. And it did help i wasn’t diagnosed with thyroid problems till middle school, so i gained weight like crazy and couldn’t do anything about it. I still can’t it only got worse as i got in high school and wouldn’t eat sometimes till dinner or barely eat. Or i would eat tons of food, then barely eat the next day because i felt fat. And i can work out and eat right all i want , and there isn’t a thing where i might be at the right weight. And recently ive been struggling so much with the disordered eating because i finally lost weight, but im still not the weight i want to be. So some days i barely eat and others i eat alot more than i should.
And on top of that i keep feeling more suicidal on and off, which isn’t fun for someone who has Borderline Personality Disorder because when we feel like that it’s like ripping our own skin off. It’s a struggle to not relapse with cutting because like i said i feel like everything is falling apart and that im not good enough at my job, being a mod, being a good partner. I just don’t know what to do anymore, im so scared to reach out to people because i don’t want to be a bother. Plus im seeing a new therapist which is great but also fucking with me because they don’t know me or get that when im in a low im majorly in a low.
Plus my gender is messing with me more than ever, i don’t feel like a guy anymore but i also don’t feel like a girl. I don’t really mind any pronouns , i mean i rather be referred to as a guy more than a girl but that’s just because being referred to as a girl makes me cringe. Like i don’t mind wearing nails, makeup, or dresses while being referred to as a guy. But legit being referred to as a girl while wearing that stuff just no. Im just so confused and don’t know what to do, and it sucks.
Sorry for all the rambling i just i need advice and don’t know what to do anymore, im on the edge an i can’t be hiding anymore. Cause im sick of hiding behind the fear that people will judge me and hate me or not love me.