i’m in a huge dilemma:
I’m in a long distance relationship and my partner and i have been dating for 4 months now. Things were going great until her mental health (im a girl too btw we’re lesbians) started declining really badly this is the lowest point she’s ever been at and she’s been distancing herself not only from me but from everyone in her family and she feels emotionally detached from everyone including her own parents. I’ve been trying my best to be understanding about that and give her the space she needs but as 2 months went by it doesn’t get any better unfortunately so last week i expressed my feelings to her about her not being able to give all of herself to me and how i just miss her and she tells me she still cares about me and doesn’t want to break up but she does not know what to do about anything anymore bc her mental health is so bad, she doesn’t want to make any decisions for herself atm (break up or not) and she tells she’s not expecting me to wait for her to get better since it wouldn’t be fair to me. So on wednesday I proposed that we take a break so that she could be able to fully focus on herself without worrying about how much time she’s devoting herself to me. Everything was going great i felt great about my decision but then the next day on Thursday she texts me opening up to me how she’s not sure whether we truly clicked socially/as individuals, she said she felt like she had to prepare conversations to have over our facetime calls otherwise it would’ve been awkward silence. We talked about how long distance can be hard and that facetiming can be awkward bc it is meant for talking so there can be a little pressure sometimes. then she says that maybe she’s not the right person for long distance then but then she tells me that she still wants to be with me no matter the distance and she doesn’t want things to feel awkward but she doesn’t have the mental strength rn to fight the difficulties with the emotions she feels of long distance so she won’t set a timeline for herself. i ask her if we’re still taking a break and she goes like “yes but i’m letting you know it’s okay if you don’t wait for me cause that’s not fair to you and i just don’t know if the awkwardness and the feeling of incompatibility will continue after the break” im not sure exactly what she meant by we’re taking a break but she’s not expecting me to wait for her but when i asked her if she’s feeling pressure even during the break she said no she’s just letting me know i don’t have to wait for her…. so yeah this is where we are now. i really do not know what to do, i know that breaking up is logical but i have feelings for this girl and she still has feelings for me, i am willing to take a break (give it a few months) until she starts to feel better bc i really value her, she is my type of girl in regards to personality, and i have a hard time believing i will find someone that is like her personality if i start to look for a new relationship. what should i do?
do you think it’s wrong for me as a college student to be in a long distance relationship bc i’m missing out on things i could be doing in person i don’t care much about that anymore but do you think it’s wrong?