I’m sorry to keep having write post im breaking up with my current BF because he not healthy for me because all he wants to have sex and dont care about me we already had a few fights about that also he cheating on me ;( IS IT ok to write a letter to him to break up or should i go face to face im scared
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I think (not that I’m any expert) that you should talk to him face to face. Show him a female can be strong, and that you’re not his toy.
But don’t go alone, just in case. Bring a friend along with you.
I believe you can do this. If he really doesn’t care about you, well, don’t give a damn about hurting him, cause he won’t be hurt. Find a guy who appreciates you and who will give a damn.
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I wouldn’t write any letter. I wouldn’t even contact him. Block him on everything, run away as fast as possible. You should not ask anyone for permission to break up with them and this person doesn’t even seem worthy of being informed that you no longer want to be with him.
Just walk away. Don’t tell him, do it asap.
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Hey @Jaceofspade,
I’m so sorry to hear about your situation with your boyfriend. Breaking up with someone is very difficult, but I strongly recommend for you to do it in-person and in public. I’m proud of you for standing up for yourself - you deserve so much better than how he is treating you. Please keep us updated!
-Eric
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I second @Eric. Once you have committed to breaking up in person, then you can go ahead and delete/block him on everything. You’re worth more than just trying to have sex with, and you deserve someone who understands that. It’s a hard situation, but you’ll feel better in the end about it.
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Update:Want to dinner on monday and he come up to me (this was in public) he ask if he can ask me a quection i said let talk private lets go outside then he walks away back to his table so I follow him to his table he ask again 2 time both times i said lets go otuside then i walk away to want back to my dorm he follow me outside it was just me and him outside I told him “why is it so hard to ask for privatenes” then he “I was never you dating first place” and i walk away and I said congrats on the baby (he got a another girl pregant and having a kid "when he said i was “never him in first dating me” he keep kisses me he keep holding my hand and texting i love you babe then if that is not love then what is love? i don’t know anymore ;(
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Update 2 (tuesday) So I was having a good day I want to lunch then walk back to the my cultinary art building (its across the campas"want inside to hang out with my “twitchy” then somebody who new to the campas come up to us ask where the money machine is i said good bye to my friend twitchy and my other friend and help the new person to the money machine which is a different building which is where my math room is" so we can walk over during that one my other friends “Julia " (different person then i was hanging out with” yell and I got supised for you" so i yell back saying that im help the new person but ill be back so i show newbie to the machine and walk back with him so he wouldn’t get lost and my Julia was there with my ex and he talked talking to me saying “why are you telling people that this ur baby” I yelled at him saying I NEVER said that and im not pregant and i dont wanna be and a few other enchange of inapporite comments I know i shouldn’t have said any of them but i did i want inside "caintary art area was upset i want to my friend twitchy and I said meet me outside so we want outside and staff “maggie” was near me and i was upset was yelling and screwing “twitchy” were trying calm me down the staff come out and got mad at me for yelling and swearing "they dont know the full story why i was swearing and yelling and upset"so i want back inside another staff “bab cotie” said step in her room and she calm me down and listen to me “I LOVE THIS STAFF MEMBER” and but i wouldn’t say person name then i want back to class after i calm down a little I want to my math class which another building "math room/money machine which a little walk i want inside and want on the computer and put music on to help calm me more then "maggie called my math teacher and want to talk to me so we meet in a room which was annoying because i finnally calming down and bring the topic back up make it wrost again she said she talk to my ex and that we cant talk to each other and i told her that dont say that and she said that if he talk to me again tell her I said ok if he does talk to that i getting harrestment thing against him (which he break that he can get kick out of the program) ;( i feeel like shit and i have a self harm urge
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PS.IM not pregant also how can you pregant when you never fuck him… also during our fight he said that last sunday i was cheating on him with one my friends “cobie” that he saw me with a kisses and holding hands ok last sunday i wasn’t feeling good and was in my room the whole time sleeping and cleaning only time i want out was to smoke and eat and they can even ask my friend “twitchy” because i text them saying im not feeling good i don’t even hang out with “twitchy” because i wasn’t feeling well and he my best friend also cobie and I been friends for a LONG time before my ex and i started dating he lets me vent and we hang out a lot “HAS friends”
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During our reletionship he would keep asking me to “fuck him” i would say no he would say when month/day/week and i said no when i feel comfortable everytime i hang out with him he asked me i would say like i need go talk to someone/need go to my room/im hanging out with someone sometimes i wasnt even hanging out with someone or need go to my rooom i just want to get away from him ;( sometimes he would touch in certrain places and i would freak out because of my past i try to expain to him that i want to go slow and that there places i cant do sometimes he would listen but sometimes he would still do it or sometimes i wouldnt want kiss or hug and i dont feel like doing it but he would still make me or he would make me “touch his pant where his private area” and go you know u want to when i dont want to
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In person. Sorry that you had to do this. STATE YOUR CLAIM and leave . Then delete and block everything.
But definitely in person he needs to see the pain he put you through and it needs to be in a public place so he can’t make a scene.
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