TW: for sexual abuse.
I didn’t think much of it when my first “real boyfriend” told me he enjoyed being rough when intimate. This turned into my first kiss him grabbing me forcefully and squeezing my ass really hard. I didn’t even have time to think about it. Which turned into our first time cuddling on the floor of my dorm into him all of sudden making out with me and when I pulled away unsure he just kinda kept going. I know this isn’t as bad as some cases of sexual assault and I should’ve just said no, but this has sent me down a path of doing sexual things I’m not really down for in order to impress guys because after that my first boyfriend broke up with me a week later. I’m at a crossroads because I really do want to pursue romantic and intimate relationships again but I’m afraid I’ll end up in another sticky situation. And I don’t want to bring it up to my mom and family because her and my grandmother are very much into purity culture and I’m afraid they’ll just blame this on me being “fast” and “disobedient to god’s will”. I plan on bringing this up to my therapist next time we meet. But I’m struggling within myself, I understand that’s it’s not my fault but this itty bitty part of me feels like I was dumb and reckless and if you play stupid games you win stupid prizes.