Hi everyone I’m posting on here again after a rough week and some stuff that went down while I was at warped tour. To do that I need to go back to a couple weeks ago…
I was driving in my car when I was with my girlfriend in California, I had received a text from my boss at work letting me know of some terrible news that one of our former associates had died in a car accident. I was like this could have been anyone? Who could it have been? I found out later that it was a person who’s name I shall keep private for the family’s sake. She was someone who I’d gone to school with. Very neat gal and very smart. The world will miss her. I’ll miss her.
She was killed in a brutal motorcycle accident and that is a big deal because that doesn’t happen often where I’m from. I found all of this out the day before I had to put my brave face on for volunteering at HeartSupport in Mountain View. I even hid this from my girlfriend and I know she isn’t happy with me for it but I needed time to heal.
Flash forward to today, the job where I work we have a print center where they print all sorts of stuff. It just so happens that the family was having the memorial printed there. The family was all crying when they brought in her photos. When you work retail, you are supposed to put on the brave face and just roll with it. I couldn’t do that and I felt powerless. I had to take a 10 minute break because it was that bad. I would have broken down in front of customers. That doesn’t look good but at that moment I just felt powerless and helpless. You would think someone who I used to know wouldn’t cause me this grief I feel. They do though.
This is not the first time I’ve dealt with this in my lifetime. 17 years of my life has been filled with people who have either taken their own life or had an accident that cost them their life. In those moments I want to help them but I know that I couldn’t and I can’t help but feel ashamed. I can’t help but feel that I don’t know how to deal with grief that well. I just wish that there was something I could have done to help out that family in that moment but I was helpless. I was frozen in position even as the walked past me. They were heartbroken and I just wanted to say one thing but my mind wouldn’t let me.
Hence why I’m venting here. I guess my healing process isn’t quite done yet. I still have a lot to recover from and if there was an easy answer for all of it I would take it in a heartbeat. Encouragement and good vibes are much appreciated.