Hey friend, thank you for sharing all of this. Being in this position of knowing that someone you love is deeply hurting and struggling is really tough. In this situation, you can feel pretty helpless and defeated - and that’s okay.
You did the right thing by sharing about what’s going on. It’s important that you keep being supported too, through all of this.
You are a good friend without a doubt. And your entire message shows how much you care. You have a good heart and your concerns are absolutely valid. Thank you for what you do for her. For checking in everyday and showing her that you care. Maybe you don’t see it, but that’s incredibly precious and powerful. It’s a beautiful thing to do. And even if you feel like you don’t know what to do to help, I really wanted to emphasize the fact that you’re actually doing a lot already - and this, despite what you’re actually dealing with.
Sometimes the only thing we can do is listening, encouraging with the means that we have, being understanding or showing that we care. And that’s always a lot already.
Just a suggestion: what about encouraging your friend to be part of this community or even just post on the Support Wall? It’s safe, anonymous, and she would only be welcomed with extra love and support.
I’m dealing with suicidal thoughts myself, everyday is a fight to stay alive. I’m trying my best, to be there for my friends and to give them some sort of hope but it’s hard, when I don’t believe what I am saying. If that made any sense…
It makes totally sense. I feel the same sometimes, because it’s easier to know what’s good for someone than to apply it to ourselves. It’s only my opinion, but I think you actually believe what you’re saying to your friend. It’s just easier to have compassion and show some love to the people we care about than to ourselves, especially when we’re struggling. But it doesn’t mean it has to be like this all the time. You can actually learn to be a friend to yourself, progressively. And from what I read here, somehow you’re doing it already: through journaling, through therapy, and by being here. Those are concrete stepsfor your own health and safety. And you can be proud of yourself for this. <3
As you keep reminding to your friend that they matter, then I want to use this post as an opportunity to remind you that you are loved as well. You have worth and you matter, friend.
PS: As you mentioned journaling, if this could be of any help, know that there is a journaling category here on this forum that you can use anytime. You can get more infos here:
https://forum.heartsupport.com/t/about-the-journal-category/15616
Sending tons of love your way.