I don’t think it’s us doing it to ourselves. It’s not like we purposely have depression or anxiety. They are legitimate struggles that many people all go through. Some due to hurts and trauma, some due to imbalance of hormones, some can’t always be explained. But, you are right, in the end only we ourselves can fix it unfortunately. Even if with the support and guidance of therapy, friends and medications. In the end, sadly yes, the only way out is somehow finding that strength to fight though it and make a change.
But it’s not always easy for people to do that because not everyone can afford therapy. Not everyone can afford medication. And not everyone has friends or family to rely on and love them through their hurts. Some people have to simply somehow find the strength and will to get through their pain alone. And that is not at an easy feat.
It certainly isn’t a thing we are just doing to ourselves. There are a lot of “strings” that can be pulled that cause us to stay locked in our depression and finding a way to cut off those strings can be very hard.
But you are very right in the sense that, somehow we have to find a way to remove those strings. Somehow find a way to fight for ourselves. Some how find a way to latch hold of even the smallest light.
Attitude change is one of the hardest things to master. I know that from experience. But I know one of the things that can be hard to swallow is someone saying that it’s your own fault if you feel bad. Or it’s your own fault if you are trapped in how you feel. I had people in my life tell me the things you just said and it was really hurtful to hear.
It hold truths, but it can feel very hurtful. There are elements in our lives that provoke and create those feelings. We just have to learn to gear up and fight against them.
I just wanted to post this in response for awareness. I hope it doesn’t feel like an attack. Because it definitely is not. As someone who’s been told these things, I just wanted to gently and lovingly let you know, that sometimes these specific words can be hard to receive and easily be misunderstood and feel kinda like blame or fault.
Just wanted to share a little perspective and awareness. ️