Hoo boy it’s been a while since I’ve been on here. I’ve been struggling to put into words how I’ve been feeling for the last two or three years in regards to how my brain works? I guess? The closest I can figure, I’ve just been dissociating through life for a while, and I could never quite put into words how that affected everything I do. Eventually I just ended up with the below. It’s sort of an open letter to my teachers I guess, because I feel like my dissociating affects me the most academically, especially as my last year comes to a close, and that’s how I could write about it best. I’m not really sure this belongs on this site, but I’m not sure where else to put it. There’s not really anyone I can talk to about it constructively with(esp. because of the quarantine) Feel free to let me know if it’s not super relevant to post, I’ll take it down
Most of the time it’s like I’m in a bubble, almost. It’s like my brain removes itself from my body. It’s not exactly like zoning out but my inner voice +thoughts feel extremely surface level, almost, like I can’t really go that deep into my brain.
I think this is why I don’t participate in discussions as much as I should. It’s like my brain wants to stay isolated and in its comfort zone, so the second I raise my hand (effectively trying to become more present and active in my own automomy, I think) my brain freaks out and I get this jolt of anxiety that doesn’t really go away and I almost immediately forget what I was going to say. My theory is that my brain is so deep into it’s need to dissociate that it actively tries to stop me from being present. I think this effects my essays as well, although I’m not quite sure about the specifics of how. It’s truly just as frustrating for me, wanting to write an essay, and trying to think of how and what to write, and then giving up until the last minute. I hate, truly, to use this as an excuse, or any excuse, because it’s not a tangible reason to not write. It’s not even something I’d view as crippling, like severe depression or anxiety. It’s just a wall that my brain puts up, and I want nothing more than to be able to pass it.
It’s frustrating because I spent most of my school career thinking I was lazy, laughing it off as procrastination and just accepting the grades I got. But something tells me that’s not it. I viscerally, truly want to complete assignments (and well!) but there is always something in my mind stopping me. Particularly in English but in other classes as well. It tears me apart to think that teachers think of me as lazy, because at this point I know I’m not, I just don’t know how to fix whatever this is.
It also affects my emotions. I’ve never felt anything deeply, at least that I can remember. I’m never not able to control my anger, because it’s very surface level. The same with happiness, I think. I come across as very in control of my emotions, I feel like, but it’s just that I don’t feel them properly.
I should add that this is educated speculation on my part, based on how I live and some prior knowledge of anxiety and dissociative thinking + disorders.
I’m not certain I was able to convey exactly what I wished to, but it’s the best I can do for now.
As far as I can figure, i have an issue with dissociation, probably due to prolonged anxiety that my brain eventually just decided to nope out of.
(Appologies for how disjointed this is, I sort of just wrote down everything all at once)
Thanks for reading, I’m not quite sure what my reasoning for posting this here is, maybe for advice? Maybe just to vent a bit, but anyhow, I welcome any suggestions or words of advice about this whole deal. I realize it’s not like what’s normally posted here, but I hope it’s at least a bit relevant
*edit: I should note that when I refer to dissociating, I’m not referring to dissociative identity disorder. Perhaps a better word to use tthroughout would have been derealizing.