Distractions | Self doubt | Anxious af

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From nandini4210: My exams are in 10 days and there is NO SINGLE GAP between those exams. I am very scared for physics as I have only done 1/5 chapters and I’m terrified.

I’m getting easily distracted and overwhelmed. It feels like I will fail. Again. And I cannot afford it. My family will be so disappointed in me I cannot even imagine. They spent so much money on my books and schools and tuitions fees. But I don’t know what the hell I should do about my hatred for physics. And how hard the questions come in exams.

I know the avoidance feels self doubt and I want to annihilate the hatred I have for it and actually study enough to pass. I just want to PASS. But I’m getting distracted easily. Any tips would be highly appreciated.

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Ok. You need to take a deep breath in and stop. Just stop. At the moment your panicking and this makes everything else worse. Just slow everything down. Breathing talking the lot. Your allowed to be scared it shows you care about this, take small bits of it at a time when it comes to studying. Physics, yeah is horrid as you have aspects of maths in it… imagen the topic as a huge chocolate cake… u cant eat it all with out being sick… so take small slices out. You got this. When u feel like ur becoming overwhelmed stop and focus on something else for a while. Walk , sing , dance take a nap then try again.

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From nandini4210: You’re right. Thankyou. But it scares me so much that I cannot even focus

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From nandini4210: I start crying===========

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From nandini4210: When I try to study and open my book anxiety creeps me and my mind fills with thoughts like I’ll fail or that I’m total failure and I cannot focus A BIT!!!

I JUST WANNA STUDY PEACEFULLY BUT THESE DAMN VOICES IN MY HEAD SUCKS!

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From nandini4210: I get so stressed that I feel like leaving everything behind and sleep for a while

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From nandini4210: But it’s a wastage of time, napping due to stress is such a waste of time OMFG. I wanna end it all and get rid of it but idk how to

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Hey my friend.

Thanks for posting this here. And thanks for opening up about this overwhelming moment in your life. I can absolutely understand why this would feel terrifying. I imagine you feel like if you don’t nail this, the world will crumble around you. You’ll have wasted time. And people will have wasted money. And then what? And then what.

And because of the pressure, if you’re like me, maybe you’re avoiding it all. Because that is way less stressful than confronting the wall of impossibility in front of you.

I totally get that. I absolutely get that.

In terms of advice - I dont know that Im that guy. Someone mentioned stopping and taking a breath. And I think that’s a good place to start. When you catch yourself ramping up into trying to predict all of the bad things that happen, taking a breath is good.

What’s helped me in my life is imagining the good. For me, I have a nasty anxiety over my health. I havent had insurance in years, so I havent been to the doctor. When I feel dizzy or I have a nightmare, Ill freak out about my health. I panic into thinking about the worst case scenarios. I feel stupid for not taking care of myself more. I wonder how much time i have left.

But i also take time to consider the good. What if it’s nothing? What if Im ok? What if it’s treatable and I can get back on track? And I have a long life with 40 more years ahead of me.

Frequently, panicking makes me fixate on the bad and I tell myself it’s just “realistic”

But in reality, I think my brain just wants to pretend it’s helping me prepare for disappointment. A self defense mechanism gone wrong.

You mentioned procrastinating. As im gearing up to take on an ADHD diagnosis soon, i found a video that helps me. I work from home so distraction is EVERYWHERE (why work when I can play a video game)

And sometimes when TONS of work piles up, I want to just walk away.

But I found this video that helps: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Uo08uS904Rg

Maybe it helps - maybe it doesnt. But regardless, you’re definitely not alone in what you’re going through. There is a lot of pressure on you and I empathize so much with that.

I hope this helped to some degree. You are going to be ok. I promise.

Hold fast my friend.