Thank you so much for being here. It’s awesome to hear that it has been helping you so far. Although I hear you about this tricky situation with your ex-friend. It makes sense to feel like you’re walking on eggshells if you’ve been introduced to this community by him. I’ve been a bit in a similar situation at some point. Someone who I thought was a friend ended up ghosting me and I felt like stepping on toes constantly. I was overanalyzing anything that I would say: woud they interpret that as being about them? Would they be upset to see me talking to others? Would they be frustrated to see me happy? I felt like I was too much and my presence, me being around, was a problem in itself. But I was wrong.
Some relationships end suddenly, and it sucks when one decides for two. It takes away your right to use your voice and make you feel like you don’t really have the right to be around. Feeling like this make sense - you are learning to compose with a new way to be present, one that is not tied anymore to this friendship that you had. However I’d like to really insist about something: even if you are both in the same space but not talking anymore, you are still each following your own journey, and you have both the right to do so.
What HeartSupport provides is for everyone. If you feel like it’s helping you at a personal level, then keep using this resource and keep doing what you want to do. Because this is about you, your life, and your ex-friend is not living it for you. Just like you’re not living their own. You both own the right to be around. And it will be up to each individual to accept that a mark of maturity would be not to interfere in each other’s right to access to the resources they need. Be you, do you, for you, first and foremost. It’s okay. You both have your very own place in this community, whether you talk together or not.