My name is Daniel. I am 18 years old and I am from Germany. I am really hoping someone can give me some good advice on how to make friends and how to find a girlfriend. I am currently going to a new school (just came back from a year in America and everyone in my class is 1-2 years younger than me ) in which I seem to be kinda popular (but not really popular, more like people accept my appearance). And here we get to my problem. I just seem to not be able to find any friends to hang out with and have some fun with. In my free time I like to play soccer and play saxophon. The people in my class are into cars but I am not really into it at all since I also don´t know how to learn anything about it (eventhough I think it might inerest me and I am doing my license at the moment). I wanna say I don´t wanna change my personality but I am open to new things, for instance cars. Now my problem is I don´t know how to talk to them so they might invite me to a party or anything like that. I mean I try to talk to them as much as I can, whenever I can but I feel like it´s just not enough (maybe it is and I just have to be more open and ask them directly). Another thing is I have had 3 girlfriends so far and one in the US but it wasn´t for long and intitiative came from the girl in 2 out of 3 cases. It kinda ran out of action and mostly got boring. My last relationship has been broken up by a girl. I feel like she didn´t enjoy it as much as in the beginning and I think she wanted me to be more active and " be the man in the relationship " which was actually really hard for me because everytime I asked her wheter she wanted to hang out she never actually had time ( I gave her a lot of options, which day/weekend we could meet but she always had something else planned for that day/weekend. I asked her quite some time before those days as well). Well sorry for all this nonsense. My main point is I would love to have a girlfriend again and spend some of my freetime with her. I know some of the girls in my class/school do like me a lot. I just don´t know how to engage a conversation with them and keep it up so I can ask her out on a date or to meet her outside of school. Since I was new to the school a couple months back, I also set up for class speaker ( I don´t know if you guys know it, it is like being responsible for the class for instance if there is no teacher, I have to take care of it and ask for exercises/ a different teacher to look after us). I did this because I don´t mind doing it as well as to be involved in this class. I am an average student and I think I could boost my grades too. If I would have some friends and a girlfriend I would have something else in mind, rather than school. I played soccer for 10 years and always had problems finding a real friend group. I always got a along with everyone but rarely did anything in private with the other guys from my soccer club.
I hope someone can help me since it would make my life so much more pleasent and diversified (not just playing video games, saxophon and doing my school work).
Have a lovely day/night everyone and thank you for your help in advance !
PS: Sorry for this long text and I could understand if it is too long for people to read it.