No worries, i’m okay with it, I’m moving on slowly…
It’s very complicated, I explained it out in my previous topic but, I’ll explain it here. Trying to keep it short.
I…haven’t talked with them for 3 months. It was an friend that I met in my last year of school…
I…think, in the end, I don’t know him very well like his personality and more…
I’ll be honest, I thought that…It was a really rushed friendship.
Certain things were telling me as an warning where I start to feel very uncomfortable from what he shared and what he said to me(some were negative response), the boundaries…but, it was mostly because, slowly, I felt that his negative emotions went into my own emotions from being an empathy person.
Like I motioned your response…He is texting/calling me 24/7 on Instagram or Discord to talk with me.
Despite, I’m not available at the moment or didn’t want talk with him.
I know, what I did was really wrong but…It is too late to turn back now.
To me, it takes time to trust a person and making them in the level of friend or best friends.
Since, I see it as step by step, not sure on how to explain.
I made a decision that…I decide to say no because, I felt that I slowly forced myself to make him happy.
I don’t know if it was the right decision but, it may be one of the reasons leads…ending our friendship.
I don’t see him as a bad person because, I know, he is facing his inner-demons that I once faced before like…Depression or Loneliness.
I tired to help him but, it only leads to an unhealthy cycle.
I couldn’t tell if he was actually happy or what I did helped him because…I had a rough time to figure it out.
During my recovery, I realized that it may be an unhealthy friendship and much more deeper than, it is… where a lot of my emotions went guilty from the words.
It really brought me down looking back our conversations too.
It was too much for me to handle.
I get it that he feels alone and wants someone to help him but…
He has accept himself first. (It’s not a bad thing to get help from someone but…still)
A part of me wished that I talked more with them or stay longer in this friendship but…It will only lead affecting my mental health worse.y.
In the end, I learned that…you can’t save everyone that doesn’t want save themselves or be 24/7 with them. As much as, it sucks…
I don’t think, I’ll go back into a friendship with him. I’m not ready to feel again these bad emotions over words. What was missing is communication. Since…He decide to remove from both Social Media.
I end up not trying figure out why but, it was his decision.
Now, i’m feeling much more better where I no longer feel guilt about it…
It may come back around because, he goes in a specific convention and…I might run away to avoid them like confrontation.
Thank you for listening my story
Sorry if I was not detail about it…
I’m still unsure about certain things but, I choose to let it go than, hold on to it.
All I hope is that…Things goes well on your side that…It won’t leads the path that I took
but, I believe that your friendship will be alright.
Maybe…Some day, your best friend will understand to let go of this jealously.
As along, the communication is still going.
-LostWings