From foobertdoobert: Been having really bad sleep from stress again. There is never no worrying. Never. For every solution there is a PROBLEM. It never ends. I am so tired. I am moving this Friday and I was finishing my semester and now there was no break between semesters so now I’m on my 3rd semester (yay) while in between moving. I have 2 assignments due in a week and a half from now and then I will have a third due as well. Oh yeah, my school has been lying to me about my accommodations being submitted when they never submitted them in the first place. I was calling every single day asking why my accommodations weren’t in and they said the director didn’t approve them yet, when I called today they said I needed to submit a new approval so they literally never sent them in. And my new teacher is incredibly rude; she said there was nothing to talk about to her when I was trying to explain that my accommodations are late and to not start out negative. Fuck off. My class today actually started at 7:30 am, when the program plan says it starts at 8:30. I wasn’t able to focus the entire time because I kept waking up the entire night.
I was able to get my dad the appeal court date for the eviction and he served it to the landlords and now I won’t be getting my deposit back until they leave. So fuck me I guess. My dad has been clean for 2 weeks now but he is still demanding I buy groceries when I have to leave and not letting me speak. He still thinks he knows everything and is better than everyone.
I have to worry about how I’m going to afford insurance and internet and groceries at my new place I’m moving into. I have to worry how I’m going to complete assignments while unpacking. Oh yeah, my hours have been cut and work said “It’S ThE ApP tHaT sChEdUlES, NoT uS”.
I also have night classes now at fucking 7-10 pm because of this damn school. And after my class on thursday i have to unplug everything and take apart my bed so I can move.
It sounds like you’re having a really really hard time, and you’re not being treated fairly. Sadly, when it comes to school, that happens quite a bit.
With all these issues happening at the same time, it’s easy to understand why you would be stressed. Sleep loss only makes it more difficult to deal with the issues.
When I am stressed, I need to exercise in order to relieve some of it and feel physically tired enough to sleep. Even when I’m not particularly stressed, if I go a few days without exercise, it becomes more difficult to fall asleep.
Multitasking is a myth. Yet we are expected to juggle a lot of issues at the same time. When several problems are hanging over our head, it seems as though they’re all nagging us for attention, hence it feels overwhelming and concentration is fragmented. So, in the midst of all this chaos, keep in mind you can only deal with one issue at a time. That isn’t always easy to do, especially when you have deadlines looming. It takes practice, but it’s worth it. Just the act of clearing the mind of everything but the issue you choose to deal with, reduces stress.
If counseling is available through your school, take advantage of it. Sometimes talking out your problems can be extremely helpful.
Please stay in touch.
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I would definitely talk to the school and escalate it up if you need to, because the treatment you’re getting from them is absolutely not right. As Wings said, if there is counseling through the school I would definitely take advantage of that.
And in terms of work, I would speak to them too because even though it’s scheduling through the app, there has to be some sort of override especially given your situation. You definitely don’t deserve this treatment, especially coming from all angles and sides.
Hey Friend, my goodness you have such a lot going on its no wonder you are frustrated and very tired. Moving is one of the most stressful things a person can do and on top of that you have all that work and a mess up with the accomodations, you must feel like it is never ending and wonder everyday what is going to happen next. It is never fair for any one person to experience this amount of hardship at any one time, I don’t think we were built to cope with a huge amount of stress which is why we get so tired and the reason you cant sleep is the constant wondering of how it is all going to turn out. I would seriously encourage you to try to try to do a 10min relaxation session when you get into bed to try and ease off some of the stress. It may not work but its quick and could have a really good effect. BE kind to yourself friend and try to work on a rota so you dont overwhelm yourself. Much Love lisa. x
Hi Foobie I’m so sorry things have been so stressful, I feel for you. I am glad to hear your father has been clean for a couple weeks. It might take a little while for him to change some of his ways, but let’s hope he is serious and can find some help. It sucks that your school isn’t handling your accommodations like they should be so the director can approve them and that your teacher was rude to you. Those things are so unnecessary and just adds more stress to your already stressful life. I hope that things get straightened out for you and they can help you get on track. Can you ask for an extension on your assignments? Just an idea. You’ve been going thru so much and it would be nice to see you get a break. You’re doing the best you can and I’m proud of you.
I’m so sorry to hear what is going on. It does stink that the home situation is compounding your school situation. I can relate, because I largely had to handle everything myself for school as well including getting paper work in for loans, housing coordination, etc. due to my mom and dad being unavailable due to factors I could not control either. However, it is not the same as your situation and it seems like people are making excuses everywhere you turn when you need assistance.
Is there some way the mishandling of your request for accommodations be escalated at someone higher up at school or via another department that could assist? Nevertheless, you are going through a lot right now and multiple stressors of this magnitude can get to even the best of us. However, you are definitely doing the best you can with the multifaceted situation you are dealing with and don’t give up being an advocate for yourself even with those who think they know it all like your dad. We are here for you anytime.