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Hi, i just feel so ignored by my boyfriend, when i go to spend a couple of days with him, i get mad, i feel ignored and sad, just because he play videogames with his friends a couple of hours while i’m here and i don’t know what to do, i just wanna spend all the time with him and i feel so far and alone, even if i have him near of me, i don’t know if it’s ridiculous, if i’m being intense or of it’s real this feeling, if it’s okay that he spend time playing videogames for a few hours or if he’s not fair doing that, even if he knows that i don’t like to be ignored by his video games, i hate it, i tried to talk with him, to take a few minutes or play video games when i’m not with him, but he don’t want to, i don’t understand him.
What i’m i supposed to?..

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Guys just don’t get it sometimes, or just too stubborn to change their routine. Keep communicating with him about what you need in spending time together. Maybe try to play the games with him? But really, nothing can replace quality time together. Hope it works out for you and keep positive!

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Yeah, he don’t understand, we been have this problem for months, i tell him what’s going on and he ignore the problem and told me that he loves video games and he can’t stop playing, i’m the one who don’t understand, we both are part of the problem.
I try, but some video games don’t like me and i get bored so fast…
Thank u, i hope it too, i’m gonna try it.
Have a good day, hope u r okay. :heart:

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People can get addicted to video games. The games are always there for them, there are people they can interact with on those games, and the games are designed to keep engaging people’s brains so they play longer, buy things, try different stories, and talk up the game to get other people to play. In its heyday, people lost jobs and marriages playing World of Warcraft. It’s not so different from a pornography addiction–video game addicts’ brains rewire themselves to get pleasure from video games instead of genuine human interaction.

Whether or not that’s really the issue, it’s not healthy for him to be an absentee in the real world, and it’s not fair to you for him to ignore you when you take time out of your life to spend time with him. Despite what he says, you are not part of the problem. You are not compelling or enabling him to play video games. Besides, when you go to stay with him, what are you supposed to do while he’s playing? It would be one thing if you lived together, his game time was a part of his routine, and you had your own things to keep you occupied; but like you said, you go over to spend time with him.

You deserve better than what you’re getting. Next time you’re supposed to go spend time with him, tell him beforehand that you want a weekend where he doesn’t play video games and spends quality time with you. If he agrees to it, enjoy your time with him, and if he wants to play remind him of the commitment he made. If he doesn’t agree, tell him you’re not going because you’re tired of being less important to him than his video games. That might be a wakeup call for him, and he might take a look at his priorities. If not, you need to decide if you want to be with someone who puts his video games ahead of you.

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Yeah, i think that might happen to him, but he say i don’t understand. Hope it gets better…
He’s in love with the video games, there’s no way that he left it.
Is what i told him, but he want this space, i don’t know what to do with that time loss, don’t make sense to me, do things that i might do in my house withouth him.
Yes, if i live with him, i understand, but i don’t i go to his home to spend time with him.

Thank you. I’m gonna try to tell him.
Yes, that can be a good option…
Thank you. I hope you are okay, have a nice day. :heart::heart::heart:

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