So after a 7 year-long roller coaster of a marriage, I decided it was best to end things with my wife about a month ago. Honestly, I don’t know why I kept it going this long. A year into our marriage, we separated due to me being unable to hold down a job, which is understandable. 10 months later, I find out she was pregnant with some other guy who she didn’t want to be with anymore, so being me I decided to step up be a dad to the kid. Then she left again to be with the kid’s dad. Repeat this a couple times over the course of 4 years and add another kid 10 months after the first was born, which brings us to 2020. We rekindled our relationship, and she leaves the kids’ dad for good. The two years were in steady decline. Our intimacy diminished rapidly, and I never felt wanted by her. I always felt like it was just her and the kids, with me as an afterthought. Whenever I wanted to do something, she always just so happened to have something planned that day. I tried and tried to communicate, but nothing ever changed.
Then a month ago, I decided to go back on the road as a truck driver so she could be a stay-at-home mom. She seemed alright with that as we had talked about it before and then told me that she was going to stay at her parents’ house for the weekend. Well, during that weekend, she closed our joint bank account, and didn’t tell me. I didn’t find out until my card got declined when I tried to buy food for lunch and went to the bank to see what was going on. I confronted her and she denied it until I told her I went to the bank. She said she couldn’t trust me not to spend money on take out, which fair enough I had problems with eating out a lot. She also decided to give up our apartment, and stay with her parents’ and, to my dismay, she informed me that I was not welcome to stay there when I returned home from the road. I also wasn’t allowed to use our second car anymore to attend my orientation for the truck driving company the next day.
So, I took a step back, looked at all the pieces of this puzzle closely,
-She took all the money out of our account and tried to hide it.
-She gave up our apartment to live at her parents
-I wasn’t welcome at her parents.
-I could no longer use our second car to attend my trucking orientation
It was all starting to feel similar to when she left before, so I decided I can’t trust her anymore.
She and I had a long talk, and I told her I couldn’t be with someone I could not trust fully.
So here we are. One month later. I’m lonelier than ever, wondering if I made the right choice because despite her doing what she did, I miss her and the kids.