I’ve had a little over 24 hours to process what has happened and well it didn’t help. I tried to work through every possibility. Why I wasn’t told sooner, what I did wrong, why she was the better choice and I’m left feeling empty.
I feel deceived. Although we weren’t together he said he didn’t want another long distance relationship, in which I understood. But then I made plans to go and see him. But to my surprise he was already talking to someone who was also long distance and well they are together now.
Before removing him yesterday I told him that I just want him to be happy. And well come to figure out the girl he’s with used to be one of my friends. And well I told her. I said take care of him and make him happier then I ever could because well I can’t make him happy.
I’ve been replaced. He doesn’t need me anymore. He’s just someone else to watch movies with, someone else to spend every waking hour texting and on the phone with. So now it’s just me.
I slept a couple of hours last night, and when I woke up my instinct was to text him but then I was like I can’t. It’s been a tough day. Usually I can text him all day or call him if we are both off, but he’s got her now. It’s hard knowing I’m so easily replaceable.
In all honesty it makes me feel like I can just go die. The person in my life I would say I’ve invested the most time in our friendship, and loved him can replace me within hours if not minutes then everyone else can replace me or forget about me too.
I’ve thought about him often, if he’s doing okay. But I keep reminding myself he has her, he doesn’t need me. The only person I feel like needed me in life now has their new person which means I can go now.
Sorry for wasting your guys time.
You are not wasting anyone’s time. You are not replaced. You will never be replaceable. You are the only you.
You are loved. You are important.
Please don’t go.
I am so so sorry. This sounds incrediblly difficult and I can’t imagine the pain you are going through. You are not wasting our time. You are brave for speaking up. It takes a lot of courage. Please hang on and know that heartbreak won’t last forever. You are enough and matter to so many people on here. I hope you can take time to grieve this but not allow it to completely spiral you. Here for you and hope you keep showing up on here.
@Monkey you are not wasting anyone’s time. I’m sorry that all of this has happened, I really am. Try to keep your chin up tho. You will find someone that longs for you as you do for them. It just takes time. We all have plenty of time here. I’m told by friends that “you won’t find that person until you stop looking” you can do this friend. We are here for you and we all love you for you. You are needed, I know you have helped me in the past when I was super down and I can’t thank you enough. So I’ll be here for you if you ever need me. Hold fast friend
As I told you privately, just because you guys didn’t work out doesn’t mean you’re replaceable. Sometimes in our life relationships don’t work out and the chemistry isn’t felt by others. But that doesn’t make you replaceable or unworthy of love or care.
It just means he didn’t feel the chemistry between you guys and that’s okay. Yes, he could have been a little more upfront about where he was at since he knew your feelings. Especially with you coming over.
But don’t devalue yourself just because one guy didn’t feel the chemistry. You deserve better than that. ️ You are a good friend, have such a loving heart, you are so supportive and kind to those around you. You’ve been a positive force to so many people here.
I know it hurts right now. Understandably. I know you feel replaceable. Understandably. But remember the truth. ️ We love you. We care for you. Don’t give up hope.
You’re feelings are valid but dont beat yourself up with false truths okay?
So much love to you.