I dont know where to start with this. I’ve started threads here countless times and deleted every single one of them because because I convince myself it’s not worth anyone else’s trouble or time; and that I can handle it myself, because that’s what I’ve done my entire life.
I feel worthless. I pursued a relationship with a person who lead me on and broke me time after time for 10 years. And I have since stopped all communication with them. I’ve tried to put myself back out there because genuine love is my hearts desire. However, when I find someone I’d like to date or pursue, they’ve either lead me on with with sweet lies only to ghost me, with no explanation, and leave me wondering where I went wrong. Or they stand me up. I turn 30 year and I just feel like finding someone is a lost cause. I’m look for intimacy beyond the physical, and it seems like no one else wants that.
I work 2 jobs because I told myself that the less time I have to myself is less time that I have that will be spent in my own head, or less time I will spend being hurt. And it worked for season. But now I’m feeling just as useless. It’s a struggle to get out of bed in the morning because I’m exhausted. But I have to do it just to make ends meet. And now my car is breaking down and the transmission is going out and I can’t even a loan to fix it because my credit is bad. I’ve tried asking for help from those around to me to get a new car, but other than getting told straight up “no” from family, everyone else masks their “no’s” as excuses. But at the same time, these are the people telling me to ask for help and to reach out if I need help. And I honestly don’t know what to do. I’ve tried reaching out to assistance programs but they turn me away because I work 2 jobs and make more than what they classify as “in need”. But I only miss that classification by less than $100. I work 2 jobs and am barley considered middle class. I’m lost.
I just feel like I have no where to go. And having everything start falling apart makes me feel so useless because I can’t even help myself.