Well it’s most definitely been a while. To be honest, I have no idea how long it’s been. I could check, but right now I rather share. The past few years have been nothing, but continuous ups and downs. I guess that’s the average life of someone living with bipolar disorder. I’ve had my manic days and my depression days and more recently my “I have no f***ing idea what’s happening to me anymore” days. That’s how I feel today.
I’ve had two hospitalizations almost a year apart. One was July 4th last year and I wanted to take my life because I was once again finished. I didn’t want to do it anymore, but I called 911 and got my medication adjusted for like the 9 billionth time in a row. I got out of the hospital after 6 days and was not 100%. I ended up breaking out my twins’ father’s car window when he shoved me and I tried so hard to let him walk away, but he was outside threatening me in front of my parents while I was in the house and then boom, I lost it. I’m still currently on probation for that hoping to be off soon, but COVID has pushed my graduation from Mental Health Court Probation until on God knows when. And for the past year it was going fine until I switched jobs due to a injury back in June, then boom life hit hard again.
I kept forgetting my meds and then after a while I didn’t even care about them anymore. It started feeling pointless. I didn’t want to be on meds anymore because I am tired of trying to keep up the front of keeping myself stable. I just want to be without the meds so badly even with me knowing that they are working for me. I was drinking heavily, and not everyday, but enough to cause some concern. I started freaking out about becoming an alcoholic like my grandmother. After a few weeks of back and forth breaking down and pushing myself, I finally broke down and called my therapist because I knew I needed to be safely put back on meds.
It devastated me that my mother wanted me to just stay in bed and let my nine year old take care of my two year old twins because in her words “she could not afford to watch my kids if I got admitted”. So I was crying hysterically on the phone with my therapist. She asked me to go to an emergency service center associated with the behavioral center she works at. I guess all they heard was alcohol was involved, because they had told me they were going to keep me to try a new monthly medication with me, but they tried to treat me for alcoholism (this was one of the days I was not drinking and al alcohol from the night before was well gone out of my system by then). They had me for so many hours sitting up in a chair at night because there was no bed, I guess and they told me the next day, way early in the morning, that they were just waiting for a hospital bed for me.
I freaked, but not badly enough to warrant any type of aggressive or crazy behavior. I was confused because I wasn’t homicidal or suicidal and I walked into the place on my own, but they told me I was pink slipped. Luckily, my favorite hospital to be admitted into was on my side, let me voluntarily sign in so that I did not have to go back to the other facility (I was at my hospital for blood work and an EKG ordered by the other place), they treated me, and only held me for 4 days. A ton of drama erupted while I was in the hospital (because I was in the hospital).
My folks had taken my car to a whole different state while I was in the hospital calling themselves getting away from the drama of me. My sister went off on them for not caring about my state of mind. My children were separated, but with family. My oldest was at my sister’s house and my twins are still at their dad’s house. I’m trying to slowly take everything back in. I just brought my oldest back home last night and I have no clue of when I am bringing my twins back home. I just am so damn afraid of getting overwhelmed.
Truth is, I’ve been wanting to leave and never come back. Just go some place where no one knows me. I keep having anxiety and panic attacks because part of me even wants to leave my kids behind, but I love them so much and I can’t grasp how I could ever think about leaving them. I am very cautious about sharing my feelings. My replies are back to “I’m fine” or “it was ok.” I’ve been sober 19 days and almost 21 hours, but as much as I am showing a good game of telling people it’s ok to drink around me or that i’m doing great with rejecting alcohol, I want to drink so damn bad. I mean I really just want to say I can handle one drink, but I am scared that I won’t be able to stop at just one and then turning around and be right back at drinking out of stress.
I’ve had to take my anxiety medicine a lot more lately and I have been faithfully on my meds, but I have never spent time actually handling my feelings and fears without drinking and it’s just sh*t show! I like a guy and don’t even want to tell him because we already agreed that what we are doing is not something serious. Hell, I think right now is a very bad time to try to start a relationship especially when I’m not sure who I am or what I want. I hate that I cannot sleep without my sleeping medicine, otherwise I am sitting up all night with racy thoughts or in tears about what I think of myself.
And you know what I think of myself right now? I am a coward because I still haven’t set boundaries with my mother. I am lonely and need to remain that way because I don’t even know how to care about myself and I’m always thinking about running anyways. I am hopeless when it comes to my mental health because I have to keep this up for the rest of my life. I am tired of maintaining everything (my meds, work, being a single mother, paying my bills and rent). It’s always off and on with the thoughts of wanting to give up and I have to say things out loud to assure myself I’m doing ok, but it never stops the tears.
All of it keeps weighing me down and bringing me back to the same questions. What the f*** is the point?! I’m going to die anyways, right? So why not just waste my days away in a bed in a room in a place where no one can find me?