Thank you so much for reaching out today. Whenever our mind is affect by worries of all kind, it is always good and healthy to write it down somewhere, even just for a few minutes.
Our world is very chaotic indeed, and we receive so much information every day about so many things that horrible. Fears are not necessarily realistic, but they are still valid for they exist and affect how we feel. There’s only so much that we can process and digest though. So on the matter of war and world news in general, I would highly recommend you to set some strong limits there in the amount of news you would read/hear every day, or every week. Staying aware of what’s going on gives this weird sense of control at first, but really stepping away from the news can be a gift to your mind and heart. And if someone brings some topics up that are too stressful to you, you can always kindly say that you’d prefer not to talk about it because it makes you feel anxious. I’ve personally learned to do that since Covid started, and people generally completely understand and respect it.
Again, feeling anxious and worried is completely valid given the state of our world. At some point though, you need to preserve your peace and focus on you. To me personally, when I feel overwhelmed like this, I try to see it as a red flag that pushes me to slow down and take care of myself. Something that helps is to clarify what is in our control and what isn’t. If you feel like a lot of your worries are things you can’t control, then it’s the sign that you will need to add some extra love and care in your routines, and cultivate things that are peaceful, relaxing and enjoyable for you. For me, it looks like drawing more, having walks in nature more often or for a longer time, playing games/watching movies that are a feel-good type (nothing stressful or with graphic stuff), but also working and giving time around here in this community. All of this helps me to reconnect with myself, with my heart, with what makes sense to me, what I value, the people I love and what I can control. Fears are still present! But they are a lot less controlling. We get to create the distance with them thanks to all the things that bring life to us. You may not be able to change the world or know the future. But you can choose right here and right now to start acknowledging the beauty, love and sparks of joy that are already present in your life.
We can’t control what’s going on in Ukraine, we can’t control the possibility of getting sick, we can’t control the possibility of losing something or someone that matter to us. What we can control though, is what we do in the present moment. And some steps can actually be a step against those fears! Eating a healthy meal? That is something you can do for your health. Saying to your boyfriend that you love him? That is something you can do for your relationship. Spending some time in nature? That is something you can do for your body and mind in order to breathe again. On that specific example, I also can’t recommend enough to reconnect with nature as much as you can. Spend time observing it, listening to the sounds of birds singing, looking at ants moving stuff around for their survival, seeing the delicate bees and bumblebees getting pollen out of flowers. Even if some spaces feel chaotic, life is still happening all around us. But we need to put different glasses and magnify our focus on those things, so our perception changes and our heart feels full again. Nature in itself teaches us so many lessons of resilience in the midst of hardships. Take time to look at it and pay attention. There is peace and contentment to find in the beauty of life unfolding around us.