Please dont judge, i recognise its stupid but i cant help it. I am very sensitve and I get really worked up or anxious over the tiniest things which i know are not a big deal but its enough to fill me with rage, sadness, anger, anxiety and end up making me have a a mental breakdown. Things like lag, spilling stuff, dying in a game, internet cutting out, computer glitching. Very tiny things either vbuild up and cause me to shout or even cry and I know they are not worth crying over but I can’t help it and idk what to do? it doesnt look like i can get professional medical help over it anytime soon so i ask if anyone here has any similar experiences and know any thing i can do to combat this?
Hey @v4ventetta I promise we won’t laugh at you. I’m sorry that you have to deal with that. It’s probably really annoying. I sometimes get like that and one thing that helps me is to just remind myself about the actual size of the problem/issue. It doesn’t always work but it helps me most times.
yeah, and i shout and cry a lot over tiny stuff which disturbs my family and i feel guilty about that as well. i also am a bit scared cus i sometimes feel like going beserk and just shout like a mad man.
Oof I’m sorry. My brother gets like that when he’s really anxious. A thing that I do that kinda of helps him is to just tell him how we can fix it and maybe you can do that with yourself?
I could give you a medical explanation which is something that causes one of the 9 traits of borderline personality disorder. When your emotions overwhelm you.
The amygdala – the part of the brain which plays an important role in regulating emotions, especially the more “negative” emotions, such as fear, aggression and anxiety is hypersensitive in people that have BPD (we feel emotions way more intensely than someone with a normal working amygdala because of this). At the same time, the hippocampus – which helps regulate behavior and self-control and the orbitofrontal cortex – which is involved in planning and decision making are under developed (this causes impulsive unhealthy reactions).
When someone is triggered our brains interpret this as danger and because our emotions are hypersensitive in those few first seconds our emotions over flood us and usually that doesn’t end well. As least for me, it doesn’t
This doesn’t mean you have borderline personality disorder. You can have some of it’s traits or symptoms and not have the disorder.
Usually, what works for me when I get triggered is to take a step back (10 mins before you react) to calm down. I have to look at the facts of the situation and then re-evaluate my emotions. Usually, I don’t feel the same intense emotions if I can do this and can react in a more healthy way if one is needed after I calm down.
normally when i do something to calm down minitues later something small will upset me and upset me more than i should be, im just so fed up of feeling all this unneccessary rage and sadness and fear that flood me i just want to be norma.