So tomorrow is my birthday and today i did quite a few things so i was heading home regular day and i was listening to music in a good mood the light was green so i turned and a women was there with her dog at the cross walk with headphones on and i didn’t even notice her she turned around and said “OMG DUDE “ and just kept repeating herself i felt really bad and just kept saying I’m sorry she just kept being very aggressive and saying “OMG DUDE” but honestly i felt like maybe i should’ve took a pause and looked to see but i thought no one was there but i feel really bad and now i realized maybe i just need to pay more attention than usual and it was a busy time on the streets as well.
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Hello, @jasmine89090! First, it’s great that nobody was hurt in this situation! Everyone is safe, so my perspective as an outsider is “how can I be a helpful human for all involved”?
For you - it sounds like you have learned a very valuable lesson with no one getting hurt, and the thing I’m most excited about for you is that it feels like you know and appreciate that! I’m not sure how I would have interpreted the woman saying “OMG Dude” over and over if I were in your shoes in that moment! It’s hard to tell how any of us will react. The fact that you react with humility, taking responsibility, etc. makes my heart sing and gives me hope for humans!! 
For her - I know the “OMG Dude” thing is part of what’s making you feel worse about it. I think feeling some kinda way about it is healthy! But that said, I want to give her some grace too…as that was probably a traumatic thing and repeating that might have just been part of her “fight or flight” response.
Try not to beat yourself up about it - I think the “beating up” you’ve already done is healthy, but don’t obsess. Lesson learned, nobody hurt, now let’s all be kind to each other and start tomorrow with that new knowledge and experience on-board!
I am so sorry you experienced that. I am sure it was scary. The best part is you didn’t hit her or her dog, so remind yourself of that and then take a breath. If the light was green for you, she should not have been crossing at the time. You feel bad because you’re a good human and you care about others. So give yourself some grace. You were following road protocols and she just happened to be in the wrong place at the wrong time. But she is safe and you are safe. That’s what matters most.
Also, Happy Early Birthday! 
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Happy Birthday! 
I can understand how a moment like that can weigh on your mind, especially when you’re in a good mood. It sounds like you genuinely didn’t intend to cause any harm. It’s natural to feel bad about what happened. Sometimes, things happen that catch us off guard, even when we’re trying our best to be aware.
It’s great that you’re reflecting on the situation and thinking about how to be more mindful in the future. Life gets busy, and it’s easy to overlook things, but your awareness shows that you care. Remember, it’s okay to make mistakes-we all do. What matters is how we learn and grow from them!
Be kind to yourself as you process this. You’re not defined by one moment, and your intentions are what truly matter. I hope you find some joy in celebrating your birthday and focus on the positive things in your life. You’ve got this. Keep going 
Yeah that kind of aggression really sticks to you and is hard to shake off. Processing it this way is helpful because it’s a way to move through those feelings. Good job naming it and writing it here. I’ve had situations like that and talking it through is definitely helpful. It’s OKAY TO MAKE MISTAKES. You would have never tried to do that. And you care to try to do it better next time. What would help you get to a place of self forgiveness?