It’s been a while since I last posted a message on heart support, I hope that you all are not going that bad. I’m proud of you being here.
Anyway, I currently have so many issues to deal with and I don’t know how to solve some of them.
I got over my toxic ex, that’s definitely the thing that I’m the most proud of since a while.
He mentally (and physically) abused me, we were together for 3 years and I had a lot of affective issues toward him. We broke up in February but we never really stopped seeing each other.
A month ago, I met someone else. He have some trust issues and he’s kind of “afraid” to get close to me. Last week and even now, we are spending like 90% of our time together. We kinda act like a couple but we are taking time before going further.
I realized that my ex was restricted me on quiet every aspect of my personality and that I’m blaming myself on things which are totally okay.
For example, i felt bad recently (mostly yesterday and today) and I felt really guilty for that. I told him that I felt bad and that I didn’t want to bother him in any ways. I told him multiple times and I apologized.
But he got mad at me. Idk what to do to cope with these mechanisms…
Do you have any advices ?
Thanks a lot guys,