So I recently found out that I am polyamorous. If you don’t know what that means is the ability to love more than one person at once. My boyfriend knows already that I am pansexual and he has dated someone who is trans in the past so he is okay with the lgbtq+ community. I am just unsure of how to tell him this. I don’t know how he will take this. I recently found out because this old friend of mine came back into my life and him and i used to fuck around a bit. Currently my boyfriend doesn’t want to have sex which i completely understand and respect. I don’t want to pressure him to sex or anything he doesn’t want to do, but this old friend is bringing up feelings i havent had in a while. I love my boyfriend so incredibly much but i also love my old friend. My boyfriend knows that my friend and i fucked around which makes this more complicated because of how i feel about him. I just don’t know how to explain this to him with out him thinking i love him less or not as much because he doesn’t want to sleep with me but this other guy will.
In regards to sexuality I know how much of a weight of your shoulders it can feel like when finally figuring out your sexuality. I recently came to the conclusion that I’m demi-Bisexual which was amazing to finally understand.
I encourage you to talk to him about this- it’s not an easy conversation but it is an important one. Explain to him your true feelings- that you don’t love him any less- basically what you told us.
Speak from your heart. Just know we believe in you and we are here for you.
Hold fast.
With love,
Lyss (ur old pal Blurryface)
Hey friend,
I’m so glad you are open about your sexuality as that is incredibly important part of being you!!!
I think it would be best if you spoke to your boyfriend about being polyamorous before you engage to much with this friend of yours as your boyfriend may see it as cheating.
I think being open in a relationship is the best thing to be as it strengthens you bond with each other.
Be gentle when you tell your boyfriend this but be straight don’t beat around the bush just be open but reassure him that you love him and you care.
He may need time to process this information a bit but it will feel like a weight off of your shoulders.
I really hope everything goes well for you!!
Hold fast,
Luna x