I have trouble speaking in front of everybody.
I can talk to my classmates and stuff, I have humor, I can laugh, and such. But when it comes to giving presentations or talking in front of everybody, I don’t know why but my voice won’t come out, it hurts, my body’s trembling, my heart’s is like being squeezed so hard, I can’t control my breathing then having a hard time to breathe it almost feels like I could die, then there’s sudden tears, and then there’s chaos, just chaos inside my head.
They always said it to me, “Just relax”, “Just think like you’re talking with friends”, etc. They said it so many times that I always feel annoyed and so irritated everytime they say those words. I tried, really, every single time, I tried. But the results are the same everytime. It really hurts. I just want them to stop, I’m so tired of hearing those words.
I asked so many people, but they always answered that I only don’t have confidence. Which doesn’t really make sense. I remember that I still could do all of those things a few years ago. And I don’t have problems talking to teachers, and classmates.
Speaking of a few years ago, I remember that I hurt myself, causing a permanent scars on my left wrist. Eventually my dad found out, he cried, and I felt really guilty. I told him not to tell my mom, but he did anyways. But, my mother’s reaction wasn’t the quite reaction I was hoping for. She yelled at me, “Can’t you just be normal like other people?!”
I’m confused. I don’t understand. Am I not normal? Is begging for the comforting words from my parents isn’t normal? Is wanting to be told “You can continue to live”, “You have to live” isn’t normal?
Ever since that day, I never really talk to my parents. Well, no, it’s always been like this. They ignore me, or when they try to talk to me, they just don’t get what I’m saying, it’s like I’m an alien trying to talk in human language.
Until this day, I’m still feeling guilty, to those people who’ll be my partner for presentations, because me and everybody knows that my voice won’t come out, and it will only make them embarrassed, right? and I’m feeling guilty for my parents, if they found out that I’m like this, surely they’ll think that I’m just being a drama queen and just wanting attention. I’m always nervous and non-stop worrying about “tomorrow”. “How am I going to keep myself alive for tomorrow?”, “Oh, there’s a presentation tomorrow, should I just die? That’ll make it easier for them.”
I did a lot of tests on google, and most of the results said that I have severe anxiety. I choose not to believe it, because… I’m afraid. No one would believe me, neither do I. And because I know that people around me won’t or don’t know how to help.
There’s a lot that I want to say, but it’ll take a long time, so I’m just going to hold it in.
I’m so sorry for the mess and long message, I’m not calm right now so I don’t know what I’m writing anymore.