I always thought I was really strong. But most of the time I think the worst of people, that no one means well towards me. Which makes me get angry or push them away. Thats not being strong, thats being scared. And its really hard finding that out cause I’ve been through a lot but I always thought I got through cause of my strenght.
But the actual case is when people love me I’m scared that I will bore them or they will leave me just like that cause I feel like I don’t matter to anyone. I feel like I can’t be special to people like they are to me. I’m used to everyone just forgetting about me. And being scared of the people I love leaving me tends to out itself through me always defending myself while theres no need. It feels like that is a protective mechanism to me, but in fact I screw up the bonds that I have with those people. I feel like I make them hate me when its my own insecurities making that real by fucking it up.
I come from a pretty bad background so I know why this is happening to me. I just always acted like it just happened, it only made me stronger and I’m happy how it made me today cause I could’ve ended up much worse.
My parents got divorced out of nowhere when I was 11 years old. Next day my mom took me to her new boyfriend cause they dicided I would go live with my mom. Back then I didn’t know how weird that actually was cause apparently she had a new relationship already while still being with my dad. She only focused on that and I was just left to myself. I’m really introverted and when I was a kid I was always scared to say anything cause my mom and her boyfriend always used to say I could only say stupid stuff so I should just shut up. Besides that they told me I looked ugly, I always got abused when I did anything wrong from turning a dvd player off or just forgetting something. I would get beat up by her new bf. I walked away to my dad when I was 16 and started living there but after everything I’ve been trough no one thought about getting me help so I could learn to live with what happened. It felt like it was just kept a secret what happened to me. And when I tried to tell people in my family they stopped me cause they didnt want to know cause it was too much for them to handle? That hurt me the worst. My dad didnt know how to bring up this angry teen that I was. So I had to do everything myself and find out everything myself. No one really seemed to bother. I was just there and I always just felt like a ghost to people.
I always thought I got out of this really well cause I turned out like a really loving person although I didnt get much myself. Sometimes I just really scare myself when I feel insecure and I push people away. I go into a rage that they don’t care about me and with that thought in my head it feels like nothing matters anymore they’ll betray me anyway. So I just go off like a scared dog. I really try to do this less cause those people dont deserve that and I really wanna trust people that they can actually care for me. But sometimes it feels like I can’t turn that off. And the problem is I do this myself. I hardly make contact with people cause I feel like no one wants to be my friend. In relationships its really hard for me to open up, and when I do I’m always scared in the back of my mind that they will leave me so I go into defense mode everythime something small happens. I have a dog, even with her I think she would be happier with someone else.
I know its a lot of word vomit. But I just wish I knew more people who went through this or that I would stop feeling like a ghost to everyone.