Really. I mean it.
Living in a foreign country, which I don’t want to leave because I have got here my little comfort zone in terms of financial stability, and also I am far away from toxic family.
Apart from that, anything else is like poop. I am ashamed, that when friends are calling me out, I can complain about literally everything and cry out. Like, you know, I have no idea why are they even trying to do this to themselves…
And it’s not like that all the time, but for a few months it’s rather my every day (with some exceptions) than something that happens rarely. I had some issues in the past, gone through different therapies which have not helped at all, but when I left my origin country it was almost perfect - only to see, that it’s happening again.
You may ask, why I actually think like that - well, I am really bad at making any closer-than-friend relationship and seeing all the friends getting children, being married or at least proposed is making me feel like an outcast. I would like to have somebody to talk to and cuddle all the time, but every time I feel like I am getting closer, something is happening. Either the girl finds somebody else, who is much more confident with sharing his feelings, or just being friendzoned.
Also, something that hit me few years ago, with significant escalation one year ago - when I moved here, I have started getting myself in better shape than before - going from 125 kg down to 85 kg, which I believe was huge achievement for me. Unfortunately, I was diagnosed with a permanent disease, which took me off away from having weight based trainings, leading into hated by me cardio stuff. When I finally pushed myself (after getting dangerously close into 100 kg zone), I had another hospital stay, when I passed out for a few hours - it occurred, that I have also some another disease, and as doctor described it to me “it’s better to stop training at all”. Right now I am over 105 kg, which is destroying my remaining self confidence.
I can’t find motivation for anything - cleaning my apartment, cooking food (so I am ordering it and usually it ends up with some KFC, which my body doesn’t like to burn at all), putting more attention into my personal projects that I am doing - instead of that, after 9 hours of work, I am starting playing some computer games for 5-6 hours, watching movies and sleep.
I am wondering how could I possibly find motivation to do that. I feel like if I could get some motivation to become “better” myself, it would also help me with self confidence, but that’s the point - I can’t find it. I was trying different methods, starting from famous habits (keep forgetting about things that I have put on the list after one week), creating day plan with specific hours when should I do things (didn’t work out because always something is happening in between).
It feels almost like an infinite loop, I am sad because I am fat and lazy, and I am lazy and fat because I am sad.