I am a person who has severe childhood trauma, to the point of actually having DID. But my parents don’t seem to understand that there are things that they just can’t do around me
My dad was coming in to say goodnight, and to give me a good night kiss, he just GRABBED ME by the shoulders and it made me really really uncomfortable so I just tensed up and sort of acted like it didn’t happen, but he picked up on it and said “Why are you acting so crabby” so I told him “You just grabbed me and I really don’t like that” and he got mad at me, took it personally, said “Oh stop, Jesus Christ I can’t even give you a kiss anymore”, walked out, slammed a door at me.
He acts like it’s personal. One time I told him to stop something and he said “I’ve never done anything to hurt you.” like trauma can’t carry over into the rest of your life. He doesn’t have any trauma, so I don’t understand why he feels he has the right to speak over trauma survivors. It isn’t personal, but he takes it that way, and I can’t even have personal boundaries without him getting upset at me. Being grabbed like that scares a lot of us. There are reasons we’re a system that he doesn’t understand, and he seems to feel like he has the right to talk over us when we talk about something bothering us.
It’s not fair. I just want a safe space where I don’t have to feel threatened, and he’s actively taking that AWAY from me. I want to be able to relax in my own house instead of feeling like I did back then, but I can’t even do that anymore. I can’t talk to him about it either, because he just takes stuff personally and he’ll yell at me, making me feel even MORE uncomfortable in my own home. I hate it here. I hate being treated like my problems aren’t valid ones, or like I’m “just a kid so adults have the right to speak over my personal experiences”. I’m so sick and tired of it.