So, the internet was out all day and my brother had to use my phone to call our internet provider and I started to get overstimulated ( I’m autistic) and I started to get upset and he kept teasing me and me mocking me
and kept saying that I’m funny when I’m upset and now I’m disassociating, numb along with autistic burnout and my depression is overwhelming.
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I would hate it too! Is there a place you can go where he won’t follow, like your room or maybe even the bathroom? In other words, can you get away from him when he’s being a jerk?
Are you seeing someone to help deal with the depression?
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Welcome to heart support, thank you for sharing with us. Gosh I can imagine how frustrating this must be for you.
I don’t know what it is about siblings, I feel like they enjoy getting a rise out of us just because they know we will react, but that’s not really a good way to treat people.
Do you think you could talk to your parents about this behaviour and maybe get them to help you explain to him why this isn’t okay? Perhaps he should know better, but sometimes they need the reminder.
I hope you’ve had time to be in a safe space and find some peace
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Hi Friend, Welcome to Heartsupport, Im Lisa.
I am so sorry that your brother feels the need to tease and mock you, that is not nice at all and he is very unkind to do that, do your parents step in during those moments? I am not surprised that you get so upset.
as @Wings said in his reply, it would be a really great idea to find a place where you can be away from your brother, have some alone time and use it to find some peace, centre yourself and calm down and dont forget if they are not stepping in, let you parents know what is happening.
I hope you are now feeling a lot better. Much Love Lisa. x
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Hi there @Austist,
Thank you for sharing here and for joining this community.
It’s frustrating to hear that your brother was teasing you for being upset – that’s so hurtful and he should know better than to act in that way. It sounds particularly hard considering that you’re feeling burned out and overwhelmed, a double-whammy that’s extremely tough.
I hope that things have cooled down now and that your brother starts to show you more of the respect you deserve in the future.
Thank you for being here and for sharing. We’re glad to have you; please continue reaching out if anything is on your mind.
<3 Tuna
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hey friend,
that is so incredibly frustrating to not be heard when you’re upset. i’m so sorry you had to endure that and now have to deal with the disassociating/numbness that is a result of your brother’s teasing. i love wings’ suggestion of identifying a place where you’re safe from him when he starts acting like this to you. when you’re facing someone trying to provoke you, they’ll be focused on continuing so the only option really is to find a way to remove yourself from the situation. if locking yourself in the bathroom until he moves on or a parent intervenes is what it takes to save you from feeling numb and disassociating, then i encourage you to give that a try! sending you all the best as you carry onward - you are worth more than anyone’s teasing/mocking. you matter and are valued immensely!
love,
twix
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I lost my dad when I was 4.
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I lost my dad when I was 4, on June 3, it’ll be exactly 21 years since I lost my father.
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I am very sorry that you lost your dad, I cannot imagine that, but im sure that has had a huge effect on you growing up. Its also sad that your brother has not taken on a more protecive role rather than one of being unkind to you. If there is no one at home that you can reach out to then the idea of finding your own safe space is an even better suggestion. I would like to think that at some point your brother will calm down and start treating you with the respect you deserve, in the meantime find that place and make it as comfortable and relaxing as you can so you hopefully dont get to a stage where you are overwhelmed. You genuinely are cared for here. xxx
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So my brother thinks that he is autistic. And I know that he isn’t. “He said that everyone is a little bit autistic”
"That Autism is just a label. " "And that they test you for Austim when your a baby and that you have to be born with it. ". The absolute absurdity of it all.
Oh and one more thing he also said that they just find out autism disorder is a spectrum condition therefore everyone has it.
I have a counseling appointment in 2 weeks.
As for a place to hide, I don’t have any privacy.