Recently a close online friend of mine and I have been making plans for me to go visit them for a week. We’ve known each other for 4 years at this point and both feel it’s been too long to have not met. I can afford the flight and she’s willing to cover the costs once I’m there. All would be well and good about this, except for one thing.
Back when I first met her I was a minor (for reference she’s about 3.5 months younger than me) and she was one of three people I met at the same time. One of those three happened to be problematic to say the least and so my mom didn’t want me talking to anyone I didn’t know in person. I continued to talk to her regardless, lying as needed to ensure that could continue since she was incredibly supportive through a very hard time of my life.
I’m 19 now and understand that I can make the choice of who to talk to on my own, but I still need my parents to be okay with it since I can’t drive and don’t have time to learn before it’s too late to visit. I have all the proof that she is who she says she is, but I don’t know how to introduce her to them. I figured it would be best to ask in the context of christmas, but even then it’s stressful to even think of talking about her since for so long I had to keep her a secret as to not lose the ability to talk to her.
I just can’t seem to get over the feeling of fearing losing the ability to talk to her. Is there any advice for revealing such a thing or getting over that fear for long enough to ask?