I have an extreme fear of intimacy of any kind i w

HeartSupport Support - YouTube
, ,
1

This is a topic from YOUTUBE. Reply as normal, and we will post it to the user on YouTube.

Belongs to: Therapist Reacts to Mansion by NF
I have an extreme fear of intimacy of any kind I won’t say say why but I know that room that door I don’t want to open I’m scared if I open it my mind would break

1 Like
2

I hear you—it sounds like you’re dealing with something really tough. Fear of intimacy can be incredibly overwhelming, and it’s understandable to want to protect yourself from things that feel too painful or threatening. Sometimes, facing those fears can seem like opening a door you’re not ready to open. It’s okay to take things at your own pace and to seek support when you’re ready. Talking to a therapist or counselor might help you explore these feelings in a safe and controlled way. Remember, you don’t have to go through this alone, and taking small steps can sometimes make the process more manageable. You are not alone. - AndrewS

3

Hey my friend. Thanks so much for being here and thanks so much for posting.
With that fear and that sealed room, I imagine that talking about it, even in vague terms, can feel rather difficult and daunting and for that, I’m proud of you. Because if you’re talking about it, others are likely reading it and finding some sense of solace - a sense that they aren’t alone with their fear and closed doors.

Also, I think it’s ok to keep some doors shut until you find the right tools, support and help to open them - whatever that means to you.

Based on what you’ve said, my fear of intimacy differs pretty heavily from yours in both origin and manifestation. Im 32 now and still slowly opening that door, and definitely need to consult a therapist again soon to fully understand what is going on, because I myself am not the most reliable lens through which to view my own trauma.

And part of me doesn’t want to face it. Because it will be hard. Harder than hard. But existing now, without addressing it, also isn’t easy. It gets in the way of my relationship with my wife, gets in the way of living a full and happy life. So - in that way I guess I don’t have much a choice.

I know that you will get there someday in your own time. There is no rush. No sprint to the finish line. Sometimes, it takes time. But there is no harm in help, ok?

I believe in you and am so proud of you. Just keep going.

Hold fast.