For context:
I’m female and my partner is male.
He’s 18
I’m 17
My problem:
Right now I’m dating a man that I truly love. We’ve been through so much together in the past that it has brought us to be where we are now. In a relationship filled with love for one another. But there’s a catch… no one knows I’m dating him and no one knows he’s dating me. There’s a reason behind this. When my boyfriend was younger he was a bit of a player so to say. He went around from girl to girl and dated them for at least a month or two and then break it off with them. That is, until he met me.
When me and him started dating for the first time, it was perfect. Sure we had a few small disagreements here and there but that’s normal. We got along so well and we loved each other so much. This is the man I trusted with my virginity and I don’t regret it to this day. We dated for longer then his past relationships, 10 months to be exact. But, then he graduated early from high school and he ended it. I was devastated, but I knew why. He got accepted into college and long distance wasn’t the best option for us. His college was on the other side of our state. So there was no way for us to meet, because I can’t drive yet. I was heartbroken and I cried for days after he left for college. This is where things get bad… because I was so devastated that I couldn’t be with him, my mother and step-dad thought he left me because he didn’t care about me and they turned against him. Anything I said to try and explain why he left they never listened.
At the end of my junior year of high school. He finished his education at that collage and came back to live in our city. I was so excited for him to come back and he was staying for good this time!
We immediately got back together and made up for lost time. We would chat and hangout almost every day. It was amazing to see him back home.
The thing is though… we haven’t told anyone that we are back together. Whenever I ask my parents about hanging out with him they always roll their eyes and sigh. They would reluctantly let me go hang out with him. For his family, it’s horrible. Because of him bouncing between girls in high school his mother hates it when he dates people. She always nags at him and just doesn’t agree with him at all. She’s always on his back about where he is all the time and what he’s doing. He’s 18…Calling her a helicopter isn’t an exaggeration. On Sunday we got in the mood and had sex but, his condom broke. It’s hard to tell when it brakes so he came inside of me. At first we weren’t to worried because I’m on birth control and we did it the day after my period ended. That was until after I came home that day and found out that my mother didn’t call to get my birth control refilled… I started to panic and I texted him immediately. On Monday we went to a store and he got me the “Plan B Pill”. I took it as soon as I got home and I’ve been having stomach pain and have felt dizzy for all of today… It doesn’t really help that I got sick as well but at least I have an excuse to stay home. I just say, “I’m really sick.”
Neither of our parents or friends know about us dating because we are scared to face our parents. It’s sounds cliché but we are like Romeo and Juliet. (Without the death) We have to keep our relationship a secret because of our parents views about us being together. After this scare, I just want to tell our parents about everything, but I can’t. The fear of their judgement is on both me and my boyfriend’s backs. We’re terrified about what will happen if we tell anyone about our relationship… We’re stuck…
. Because if you make sure of those things, then you know the relationship is fair and that he truly cares about you.