Hey @Geko,
Thank you for being here.
I guess I’m not a person here either. Not a single reply. Goodbye.
You may not receive a reply immediately, but that doesn’t mean you are not seen or valued. Everyone here is willing to spend some of their personal time to either reach out or support others. Sometimes, people who are online don’t relate or don’t have anything to say to answer someone specifically. It depends on what is shared at a given time. There are tons of posts I would personally be unable to respond to because it wouldn’t be appropriate or adequate as my own experiences or ability to understand may be off topic.
What is sure though, is that no topic is ever left unanswered here. It can be a matter of time and patience, of grace to give each other too. Please don’t let something that has nothing to do with you become a way to justify negative thoughts about yourself. It wouldn’t be fair to yourself nor to anyone else. We’re simply all trying to share life as we can around here.
All I do is work. I go to work, and deal with co-workers that can’t remember my name on the best of days, then I come home to an empty house save for my dog.
Loneliness is a terrible experience and I’m sorry that this is what you’ve been facing lately. It’s hard to keep moving when it feels like you’re doing it just for yourself, especially if you struggle seeing our own worth. What you describe is heavy, painful, although it’s about life circumstances and nothing that would define you as a person, or how lovable or needed you are in this world. Your dog would miss you because he has a unique connection with you. It’s not about just being fed every day. Animals have a very unique way to love us unconditionally, which is sometimes even more authentic than the way humans do.
There was a time in my life when I was extremely alone and couldn’t help thinking that if I’d disappear no one would notice really. I had no one to talk to directly, to the point that it would be a real opportunity for me to just say a few words to a cashier in a shop. When we face this loneliness it feels almost impossible to not let ourselves drown into it even more and give up on any possibility to reconnect with others. I hear that, on top of it, your heart is grieving losses and that must have shaken your world in such a brutal way.
I want you to know that you are seen right now, and life certainly doesn’t have to be just about finding distractions away from solitude. First off, it is possible to find more contempt in solitude, but also this awareness that you have right now regarding how you feel can be a powerful opportunity for you to plan ahead some ways to change your routines, and who knows maybe adding more social activities in it? I won’t burden you with tons of suggestions as this is not what you’re asking right now, although if you’re willing to share, I’d love to hear what are the current barriers in your life right now that prevent you from maybe exploring new activities that could be excuses to meet new people and share life with them. It may feel impossible to change anything right now, but there might be some simple steps to take, little by little.
Through it all, you are loved and valued. These life circumstances don’t define you and I hope you will keep giving yourself a change to explore and experience more of what life has to offer.