So much this.
I have made a lot of progress over the years as far as becoming more aware and respectful of my own feelings and their validity. At the same time, there are days when I am with my husband and something has happened or maybe it was just a bad mental health day, and I worry because I don’t want him to think he did something wrong or to have to worry about me or what have you. Because he doesn’t deserve the stress and the worry.
Other times something might happen and I am angry and I start thinking so negatively when he doesn’t deserve that either. Should I be mad? Maybe, maybe not. But I don’t need to take it out on my husband. And yet at the same time, for all I know he would be more than happy to sit with me and help me feel better.