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I struggle with homosexuality


I am a Christian. A proud one. I go to church every Sunday. I go to four different youth group and I love it so much. But there is a problem. I have been struggling with homosexuality since the 7th grade. I mean I do like girls I want to have a family when I am older, But I have been struggling with these feeling for so long and it’s so difficult to deal with. It all started in 7th grade. It was the first day of school and I saw this one new guy that I never met or anything. You see I was homeschooled for 3 years before this. So I knew everyone but that one guy. I mean I saw plenty of new people. He just stuck out amongst the crowd. At first look I could immediately tell he was amongst the popular group. Anyway I never thought about me being gay or bisexual or anything until I thought about it more. In January I question if I like him or not. And I did. I have been struggling with this for a year and a half and I just can’t take it. I don’t want to be gay, I don’t want to like guys. I feel helpless and trapped. And it sucks even more considering that I am a Christian and you know, being gay isn’t the most accepted thing in Christianity. I told my youth pastor and the senior pastor at my church. They are like my dad and grandpa. They both matter so much to me. What they did, they just loved on me. They both didn’t care about who I thought I was they just loved on me endlessly and I couldn’t be more grateful. I am still struggling with this and I don’t know what to do. I don’t know weather to just accept it or what or never have a partner. I am so confused and my mind is going a million miles per hour right now. The worst part is that there are not many people who struggle with this. Sure people may be hatred for being gay or Christian but you don’t see gay Christians and I feel like I am the only one who is suffering through this. I need help


I can relate I’m Catholic and LGBTQ and it is something that I struggle with. Too say it is hard would be an understatement because it is something that we cannot physiologically control and we are trying to be a follower of Christ while the Christian community doesn’t fully support us. One thing that has helped is even if one member cares and supports despite being gay then that makes a huge difference because it means that you are not going through it alone. The fact that your youth pastor and senior pastor support you is amazing. If you feel comfortable continuing talking with them about it or find someone who you feel safe talking to. Know that if you are LGBTQ or straight Christ will still love you. Keep hanging in there and know that you can talk about anything on Heart Suppport.


Thank you so much. There are not many people I feel comfortable talking too about this. Even my youth and senior pastor


I get it because it goes back to feeling judged. I think if you can find someone you feel safe and comfortable talking to it will help. Know that you can say anything and everything here and not be judged. Stay strong.



There are misconceptions when it comes to Christianity and Homosexuality. I encourage you to do research about the context of the Bible. God will help you. Christians shouldn’t hate anyone. Regardless of anyone’s sexual orientation. I am a Christian. Still learning about God, and other things of this world I am having a hard time comprehending. What I do know is I must love Him, love others, and love myself. I encourage you to do the same thing. If you want to share more, this forum is still open. I hope you are doing okay. Thank you for sharing. God bless you.


I’m sorry your going thru this I can imagine you are going thru a crisis. I’m not Christian but I know of many devout Christians that struggle with such feelings.

Just follow your convictions nobody knows your heart but God and he will guide you and help you.


Thanks you man. That means a lot❤️


I’ve been a Christian my entire life and I can say with one hundred percent certainty that your sexuality is your choice and you should never feel guilty about it. I know this because Heartsupport is a Christian organization founded by Jake Luhrs and after listening to their Instagram updates and stuff I can tell you that it is your choice. I am so happy to hear that you find Christianity important to you and you should know that love is a key part of Christianity and love is unconditionally given by God and us as humans try our best to return that. Sending love your way friend :heart: