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I’m glad you’re doing this. I’ve been abused from 4-8 by a relative. I’m survivor of domestic violence. I still don’t feel like I am. My mom just shrugged her shoulders when I told her about the abuse from when I was a kid.
Hello! I’m sorry you have had to experience these experiences in your past, but I am glad you feel like this is a safe space for you to share what you have been through with us. Letting it out in a safe place where you can be heard I think is an important part of trying to recover from the things we have been though. You definitely deserve to be heard and acknowledged when talking about what you have been through/are going through. You don’t deserve to just have someone shrug their shoulders at you. You are worth it, and I’m glad you have survived the struggles that you have endured so far, and are able to be here to speak up about it. Stay Strong, and if you ever want/need to share more with us. Please feel free to do so. <3
Hello friend,
You definitely ARE a survivor, and a warrior in fact. Because when you deal with a lot of stuff like that, and then you battle through those experiences and are still here, that’s what you are: A warrior. I’m so sorry that your mother did that. Has she ever acted like that when you brought up other things?
Hearing you say “I don’t feel like I am” struck me so hard, and then you mentioned how you told your mum and she basically dismissed you. It’s no wonder you don’t feel like you survived when someone has taken all the hurt and pain that someone else caused you and brushed it off.
Being a child and depending on the adults around you is such a confusing and conflicting battle when the adults in your life choose to use their power for something evil.
I’m sorry that people have dismissed your experience and trauma, especially your mum.
I just wanted to let you know you’re not alone and that there’s a healing in the shift from victim to survivor. It’s almost like reclaiming your body and mind piece by piece.
Hello @HeartSupport_Fans,
I grew up domestic violence from my parents & younger sister for 15 years. For me, I had to hide from others the abuse that I went through. My parents and sister took 2-4 years to apologize for emotional & physical abuse. The more I denied myself the trauma grew bigger. To this day, I don’t feel comfortable with my younger sister. My body automatically responds of fear when I’m near her. Do you have any friends or anyone that you can speak with the abuse? I feel like you are strong survivor of domestic violence. A parent should never hit a child no matter what. It’s traumatizing. I hope you are doing okay.
Hi and thank you so very much for finding the courage to share this with us. I cannot imagine how this has affected your life, being abused as a child was monstrous and I am truly sorry that happened, I believe you and I am desperately sorry that your Mother just shrugged her shoulders instead of hugging you and telling you that none of that was your fault, she was so sorry it happened on her watch and is there anything she could do now to make things easier.
You are a survivor friend but it helps when you have someone cheering you on and letting you know that you are doing well in your life, for example you did not choose to get into a relationship containing domestic violence, I don’t think anyone chooses that but you have chosen to get out, that is a massive accomplishment that not all manage and I am really proud of you for that.
What I would love to suggest to you now is that you truly focus on self care and learning how to love yourself for the amazing person that you are. None of what has happened in your life so far has been your fault, you are in no way to blame. Moving forward if you can learn to truly believe that you are a survivor and are worthy of better, you will be most of the way there, the mindset goes a long way to making things happen. As for your Mum, perhaps later when things are clear in your own mind and you have dealt with things more, you could try again and talk to her about the past, I would imagine there is some guilt there too.
I wish you well friend and again, I’m proud of where you are now, keep striving for more. I know you can do it. Lisa x
Hi Friend,
I’m sorry to hear about your experience and what you were forced to go through. You are a survivor of domestic violence, even though you might not feel like it at the moment. I am also so proud of you for mustering up the courage to express what you went through with your mom. It does take a lot of strength to open up about experiences of abuse such as this, and you were able to do so. That said, I can imagine it must have been so hurtful and disappointing to receive the response that you did. I’m sorry that your mother was not able to provide a more empathetic response to what you shared. I’m not sure how much time has passed since you told her but I hope she can eventually come around and be of more support to you as you try to heal from what happened.
@HeartSupport I’ve done a outpatient program. It was so hard. I was mentally exhausted every day. Getting these positive comments have help.