(For context because not everyone knows. My boyfriend had surgery and his arm is in a sling, so I am literally his right arm)
My boyfriend called me from the other room, so I went to see what he needed and he just says, “bathroom.” I’m like thinking to myself, can you fucking say please? I get him back in his chair and his eyes are on the TV the whole time I’m getting his blankets on him. No emotion…just staring. No glances up at me with appreciative eyes, no chit chat… Nothing.
Then, I tell him how I feel because I’m triggered and he gets that glazed look on his face like, “oh shit here we go again” and made me feel like a crazy person and all I’m doing is just trying to explain to him how that triggered me. He isn’t saying anything just looking half at the TV and half at me. I’m getting agitated because now everything is triggering me. Every eye shift he makes, his breathing, the shitty little condescending smile on his face and the fact that he keeps looking at the TV instead of me while I’m trying to talk to him. He was being very dismissive.
You ever hear the saying, “just nod and smile?” That’s what I felt he was doing and it made me feel that my emotions were not important. Even if I misinterpreted his facial expressions or even the whole situation, which does happen… he didn’t have to act like that. He could have set me straight like he has in the past.
So, what do I do? I go off and shit flies out of my mouth and I start pointing out all the little things that he does or doesn’t do that prove to me that he doesn’t give a shit about me.
It really pisses me off when he acts like this. If I’m crossing boundaries or you want me to stop being “BPD,” then just tell me. Don’t act like I’m being crazy and dismiss my emotions.
I normally wouldn’t post about this type of thing, but I’m really pissed and I want to go back out there and yell some more, so instead I’m ranting here.
Thanks for listening.