I want you to know that you’re a wonderful person, and every conversation I’ve had with you had been pleasant, so when these thoughts happen, you can always count on the fact that I don’t think you’re a failure at anything
I also want to look into that a bit more, because I know people sometimes say that they “fail at life” or are failures themselves, and imo, that’s impossible.
The main definition of failure that people use in this context is "a state of inability to perform a normal function ", and that in itself should be a clue that shows that people can’t really be failures.
We can’t fail at life because there is no “normal life”. We can’t be a failure ourselves because there is no “normal” that is defined as success. Everyone walks down a different path in life, everyone has different struggles. It’s impossible to define “succeeding at life” just as it’s impossible to define “being a failure” because there is no singular path to life.
You don’t have a license, but you don’t need one. I have one but I never drive anywhere. A license does not prescribe any worth (or lack thereof) to your life. You don’t have a college degree because you’re (rightfully) afraid of the debt that can carry. You don’t need a college degree to be happy in life, it’s not the only route out there to stability. I would definitely recommend exploring other options and seeing what’s on offer. Maybe you’ll see one you didn’t think of before that actually fits you really well! A college degree does not prescribe any worth (or lack thereof) to your life.
There are many different paths that we take to life, I would argue that every single person takes a different path. Because there’s no pre-defined route, we can’t really fail at it can we?
You matter, and you’re important and valuable because you are YOU. You offer a perspective that nobody else can match. You’re a human being, and you’re alive, and that in itself prescribes to you a right to life and happiness.
It’s okay to struggle Aleister, it’s okay to go through difficult times. So long as we keep standing up, and trying out best, we’re doing it right. In my opinion, you can tell if you’re going in the right direction based on whether or not you’re making the “right” decisions whenever there’s a crossroads. So long as you are, you can’t help but improve.
As an example, maybe you want to get better at drawing. You have a goal in mind of how good you want to be, but knowing how to get there is near impossible. So long as 51% of the time you come to the crossroads of “Do I draw, or watch TV”, and you choose to draw, you are moving towards your goal.
You might find that you’re actually moving towards your goals every day, because you’re constantly making good decisions
Thanks for posting friend, we’re here for you!