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Loneliness/Will I be single forever?

Sometimes I just feel like no one wants me, I know I have so much to offer and it just feels like that’s not enough. Dealing with severe anxiety just makes it worse. Especially when you put yourself out there and you’re rejected. It sucks that I’m too afraid to even approach someone or go out to even have that possibility. I wish I was more confident and bold. I wish that someone would see me, really see me and maybe approach me and want to get to know me. I want love so bad it hurts. Then I think about having bipolar, anxiety, binge eating and major depressive disorder and thinking who would want someone with all that. It hurts being lonely when you’re ready to love someone and you feel it’ll never be reciprocated. It’s the worst when everyone around you is in relationships or aren’t social awkward when it comes to dating. I’m scared to even talk to people because I might say something wrong. I don’t know, it just makes me extremely sad and I pray about it. I pray god will send someone made just for me but it’s just hard waiting when you know in your heart you’re ready you’re just so afraid because anxiety is holding you back.

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He will find you. I wanted a soulmate some who loves me for me and who I love. I was 21 but I met him when I was 36. I will find you the holy grail by enya is a good song when you are feeling lonely it’s on Spotify and YouTube.

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Thank you so much for this! Means a lot!

You are uniquely you! You are right that you do have lots of potentials and if someone does not recognize this then that is their loss. There are a lot of people in this world with bad intentions, so at least you are skipping over some fake friends and relationships. If someone is willing to make an effort for a friendship they are more likely to be worth your time in the long run. If you are being friendly and nice to others then just know you are doing your best, and let God handle the rest. Lord willing, relationships were someone appreciates you are coming your way, so do not worry! Also, I wanted to share with you that God sees you and loves you for who you are. During waiting periods in our life, we can develop our character and focus more on God. Every human you are going to meet is going to be flawed in their love, but only Jesus can give you the true love that it seems that you are wanting and waiting for in your life. I personally have done this before but I strongly recommend continuing to ask God to help you to feel his love and presence in your life. I love that you are praying to God about all of this! I will also say a prayer for you that God helps you with your anxiety, relationship fears, and leads you to the right person. If God’s hands are in your relationship, trust me your anxiety, or the fear of saying something wrong, will not stop the person from coming to you in relationships. The door that God opens in our life, no man can shut! The funny thing was before I answered this message, I read this scripture, Isaiah 64:4 God " acts on behalf of the one who waits on him". God’s timing is perfect and much better than we can expect. I don’t know why, but I love recommending songs, not so long ago I listened to the song This me by the greatest showman cast.

You are loved by Jesus and you can always talk with him :slight_smile:

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Thank you for your response, I feel like that was something I much needed to hear!

it’s just hard waiting when you know in your heart you’re ready you’re just so afraid because anxiety is holding you back.

That’s exactly how anxiety feels for me. It sucks. It’s frustrating. It’s hearbreaking. I can’t count the amount of time when I missed opportunities to talk, to do something I like and to just… live. It holds me back. It’s indeed a real burden. And another frustrating aspect is that it’s not visible to others. Some days it’s really defeating. It feels like a strong wall that it’s impossible to overcome.

But it is possible to progress on this matter and live with anxiety. I read on an other post of you that you’re currently on therapy. That’s really good. It’s important to be able to work on your mental health in a safe space.

I wish I was more confident and bold. I wish that someone would see me, really see me and maybe approach me and want to get to know me. I want love so bad it hurts.

I hear you. But I can assure you that even if you’re not as confident as you"d likeright now, love can still happen unexpectedly. I’m not saying this to cheer you up with fake assumptions and some over-optimism. But I struggle with severe anxiety, depression, I had my own battle with eating disorders and traumas. Yet I met someone almost 10 years ago now who became my partner. We had our ups and downs, but we’re still together and we still love each other. Yet I’m not the easiest partner. I had my own demons, and deep struggles to work on. And so does he. But we keep growing together. And that’s what actually love is about. It goes beyond our inner struggles and pain.

Before I met him I was in the same pain and mindset as you. Somehow, I think I even gave up on the idea of finding my love one day. Yet it happened. Despite the effects of depression and despite all the anxiety I was struggling with.

Your mental health, the diagnosis you received, are part of who you are. But it doesn’t define you. And it absolutely doesn’t define your worth as a unique human being. You’ll meet someone one day who’ll see you and your heart, and not just your struggles. They will love you as you are, and not as how you could be. Until then, it’s okay to feel scared, anxious, to be crippled by doubts sometimes. And it’s okay to say it. Keep trying, friend. Keep sharing what’s in your mind, keep stepping out of your own comfort zone. But do it progressively, step by step.

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Sending love your way. :hrtlegolove: Be gentle with yourself, friend. We never know how tomorrow is going to be.

You are loved. And I believe in you.

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Thank you so much! Reading this made me smile! It’s nice to know that I’m not alone in my struggles. I appreciate all the love and wise words more than you’ll ever know!

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